No matter how grave the offense or how unacceptable their behavior, your healing starts when you let go of the gripe. Yes, it was unfair; yes, it was unjust; and yes, they did you wrong. Forgive people, because they, like us, have many imperfections. They know not what they do. We let go of self-pity and resentments by being more grateful. Not only be thankful to your ex and the relationship you shared, but start living a life filled with gratefulness. Appreciate the kind gesture, the words of encouragement, and the favorable circumstances that unfold in your life. Making a small gratitude list as you start or end the day can help you move from focusing on resentments to focusing on thankfulness.
Once again, transform bitterness toward others to gratefulness that others have found love in their lives. If others have found love, let that be a message of hope and possibility for you. We are each on our own journeys to better understanding ourselves and loving better. The way to be happy in and out of relationships is to let go of expectations and conditions. Be open to meeting new people, be open to being vulnerable, and be open to falling in love again.
Set the intention for love to enter again. I know the feeling well. Seek to be your most honest self. Being vulnerable means being honest about your shortcomings and sharing your feelings. You want to tell the same sad story repeatedly to friends—a love gone wrong, a love soured, a love that fell apart.
There are many perspectives and stories in every relationship. Are you holding onto a story of resentment and bitterness? Are you willing to see a different story? How is fear holding you back? Is it keeping you stuck from living the life you want or the love you desire? Call fear out for what it is. What is the worst that can happen if this fear came true? How likely is it that this fear will come true?
Have you overcome fears like this in your past? When you confront fear and acknowledge it for what it is, you can have an honest conversation with fear.
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Ultimately, a partner is a mirror and guide to help you complete the journey to your truest self. Even if you break up with them, they can be a conduit to healing and being made whole. Couple with flashlight hearts image via Shutterstock. Vishnu is a writer and coach who helps people overcome breakups to rebuild their lives and live with purpose.
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It's not about me. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. Click here to read more. Let go of pain. Let go of trespasses. Let go of bitterness. Remind yourself of their redeeming qualities. This is something most people would oversee when they choose to limit the love they give for others. Everyone in this world deserves to be loved. Those people in your life deserve to be loved just as you are. You hold so much love within yourself, and theoretically, that capacity you have is endless, so might as well use them for others right? It could just be a simple gift, message, or coffee.
All those are great acts of love.
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People, myself included often forget this one. It may be true of course, that loving makes ourselves more vulnerable, precisely because we open ourselves up to others. As we love someone, we can still be sensitive, pull back if need be, or completely turn away for our own good.
We can still protect ourselves or at least to a certain extent, prevent the pain that comes with loving.
The beauty here is that you should find more upside in truly loving already. It may take some effort to do so at first, but I promise, it gets easier overtime. This point is very important. Most think that with less love for others, we love ourselves more.
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This could make sense, but loving is complex. And I can not stress how important it is for you to love yourself, more than others. Speaking from experience, I found out that I ended up trying to play safe, even with myself. We turn out perceiving loving as a way of making ourselves vulnerable. The people we love the most. This is no surprise as we really are meant to stand together with others.
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We, humans are here to be there for each other. But then, if you limit loving so much to not even reach that stage of love for anyone, then you may find it difficult to be yourself, especially with others. I forgot about it too. But when a love that we once shared with some turned out hurting us, our normal reaction is to assume that the love was never real. But regardless of what you think of it now, it was real.
All your shared experiences, memories, simple joys, and so much more were all real. The love was real.
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It is the most real feeling that you may feel in your whole lifetime. To a certain extent, this binds all the previous points as well. The happiest moments of your life may arguably be with the ones you love the most. And that is no coincidence. In the same way, when you love, you really live. We stand up, and continue to live our lives, learning from our mistakes. And that is how we love as well.
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That is how I must love, how you must love. I know it hurts. We are to continue loving, continue living our lives.