I suppose it depends on your definition of normal. You have a partner and friends. Your life sounds pretty normal to me. Being normal has nothing to do with who you are attracted to but how you live your life. I know straight people trapped in miserable marriages who cant stand the sight of each other. I know straight friends who have been looking for the right partner for years without success. I know straight men and women who have no friends at all and who hate their lives.
I have an anxiety disorder and there are some days when i fight just to get out of bed. Then I have a look at the world and realize that there are a lot of people doing it a lot worse than me. Don't feel bad about being gay. I know there is still a bit of stigma in certain parts of the community but it is getting better.
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You are who you are. Try not to be too hard on your friends. If there jokes are getting you down, let them know. I don't know you but you sound pretty normal to me: Welcome to the forums. I note in another post that you are also living with a combination of agoraphobia, anxiety and bipolar disorder, as well as occasional suicidal thoughts so I wanted to acknowledge the difficulty of managing that first and congratulate you on keeping things together.
It sounds as though your friends, while well-meaning, sometimes treat you as 'the gay one' in the group, and as Mbuna says they may not realise they are doing this. But ignorance can be just as offensive and alienating as outright prejudice; we can't flick a switch to change who we are.
Depending on where you live, there are lots of different options available, from sports teams through to walking groups and groups that meet up to go out to the movies or have lunch. There are also the social networking apps for gay men that can be used to find friends in your local area, they aren't just for guys looking for a relationship or to hook up. As a gay man I have been to a strip club once, also at a mate's bucks party. I have never been to one since - why would I? Thanks for the advise guys.
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I know that my friends aren't trying to be malicious in any way regarding my sexuality. I guess it's just all in my head. It's just that my sexuality comes up so much in conversation it feels like they think it's all I have to contribute. I have thought about joining social groups in the gay community, there's even one here for people suffering from mental illness. Only problem is I have a partner that is a little, insecure and can be a little jealous as well as he can be a little socially awkward so he doesn't enjoy social gatherings at all. He too has bipolar which has made our relationship tense quite a few times in the past and I'm sure will again in the future.
We do however have a great relationship and can discuss things quite open and honestly. We might just need to talk about this one a little more. I'm not sure whether or not you have the strength to tell these fellows to stop with all of this crap, the point has been made, so just let go, and rather don't associate with them. If you want to retaliate you can and by doing this is to find the ring leader and any flaws that he may have, and just briefly mention them, so the highlight on you will change over to him.
Whatever sexuality you are is of no concern to anyone else, and no one says anything about the professional tennis players who are gay or lesbian, nor should they point out flaws that they maybe thinking about themselves. People try and make fun because I don't have a female in my life, that's my decision and I have my reasons, sure there are times when I would like to take out someone, but my sleeping hours forbid this, that's my problem no one else's.
Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. Home Get support Online forums. Online forums Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile Complete your profile. Cancel The title field is required! Needless to say, I don't think I'll be going back to a strip club any time soon. Hey Athryn, Sorry to hear you are feeling down. This man had touched all of them This is a sad story in some way but your post kind of reminds me of this guy. Chris B Community Manager. Hi Athryn, Welcome to the forums.
And being gay is exactly as normal as being heterosexual. If other people treat you as not normal then they are not normal J. To tell you a little bit more about myself — and much to my immense shame.
I am 52 and grew up in a time when being gay was not at all accepted and I think not legal??? I grew up in the 60s. I had never had anything to do with gay people until some adults took me into their home when I was homeless at 16yo. They had a son who was gay and in the theatre. I went to a party with them and met their son and other gay people. I must admit, I felt a bit odd at the time but only because a couple of the guys were more feminine and graceful than me a clutz and not graceful ever. But I had a ball with them because they were really nice people.
But I liked them as people. Then through my own traumatic years I got involved with fundamental religion. Gays are an abomination to God Without really understanding that or many things and being so lacking in confidence, I accepted the manipulation of males re the Bible. Then when I was 35yo I went to an Agoraphobic workshop thingy. Yes, I was agoraphobic since 23yo. Anyway, in this workshop was a gay guy I will never forget as long as I live.
He grew up in a religious family.
“I am not gay, although I wish I were, just to piss off homophobes.”
So from day one he fought who he was. Condemned in every way. He cried his eyes out and I cried my eyes out. I saw that I had blindly accepted the truth of someone else the religion — and I was a party to condemning this man. I broke my heart over him, and apologised profusely, and I understood, for the first time that ignorance not only comes from fear, but from lack of self esteem. Allowing others to deem what is truth. From there, obviously, I gave religion a wide berth and still will have nothing to do with fundamental religion.
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