Just a Real Mans Love

The opposite is also true. We cannot selectively numb ourselves to sadness without numbing ourselves to joy.

Love is often unequal. The truth is that love is often imbalanced, with one person feeling more or less from moment to moment. Our feelings toward someone are an ever-changing force. In a matter of seconds, we can feel anger, irritation or even hate for a person we love. Worrying over how we will feel keeps us from seeing where our feelings would naturally go.

Allowing worry or guilt over how we may or may not feel keeps us from getting to know someone who is expressing interest in us and may prevent us from forming a relationship that could really make us happy. Relationships can break your connection to your family. Relationships can be the ultimate symbol of growing up. They represent starting our own lives as independent, autonomous individuals.

This development can also represent a parting from our family. Love stirs up existential fears. The more we have, the more we have to lose. The more someone means to us, the more afraid we are of losing that person. When we fall in love, we not only face the fear of losing our partner, but we become more aware of our mortality. Our life now holds more value and meaning, so the thought of losing it becomes more frightening.

In an attempt to cover over this fear, we may focus on more superficial concerns, pick fights with our partner or, in extreme cases, completely give up the relationship. We are rarely fully aware of how we defend against these existential fears. Most relationships bring up an onslaught of challenges. Getting to know our fears of intimacy and how they inform our behavior is an important step to having a fulfilling, long-term relationship. One day after saying yes to dating a really nice guy I abruptly ended it. This article says a lot and has given good explanation on why I may be sabotaging it….

Express your thoughts and feelings to him so that he is aware. In the end, what really matters is knowing yourself and that you tried your best at being a good person who is only human and trying to live a well life.

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Both times it was so stressful and emasculating. They were so unrelenting in their criticism. They made me feel so bad, what tiny self worth I had disappeared altogether. They constantly expected me to solve all of their problems- they wanted me to take responsibility for everything. How could I do this when they made me feel so terrible?

How can I solve any problems when they have stripped me of my confidence? When I stood up for myself I would be met with violence. I am very old now and I have never been loved by a woman. I am a peaceful caring man I would sooner cut off my hands than hit a woman but the violent men I have known have woman dripping off them.

I am physically unattractive but I deserve better. I know that entering into another relationship will the start of another descent into hell. This was a nice description of the problem faced in your relationship. I was critical to my partner as well for not taking responsibility. Well she left ME.

I wish he could meet a sensible, kindhearted, loving and insightful woman who saw what precious soul he is. And who proved it. That together they proved that entering into another relationship will not be the start of another descent into hell. And I wish the same for myself. My thing is that I attract the wrong men into my life. Bc I want to feel love and affection any guy that comes my way and gives me good attention, I fall for but sooner or later Ihe hurts me.

Like currently I like a guy who is dating someone else and bc he gives me attention even tho he ignores me at times and treats me like a slut I just focus on when he does treat me well and ignore the bad.

I know I should love myself to walk away but I feel that I crave feeling wanted and love. My ex dumped me after promising me the world and showing me so much love and attention. He even told his parents that he loved me and wanted to marry me. Just out of the blue, he feels this way then gives a vague explanation?!

What is wrong with you, is that you are asking what is wrong with you! Nothing is the answer to your question. Why he treats you badly is simple, you let him.

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He dates you and someone else because of his own insecurities. When you realize that a man cheating has nothing to do with you not being good enough or that you are in some way not valued, and it has everything to do with him not feeling good enough for you so he has to boost his ego with attention from others.

You will see your own self worth. What is wrong is you are taking his insecurities by evidence of how he treats you , and projecting them on to yourself. Value yourself, show your worth to yourself. The rest of the world will see it and believe it, and respect it. God created you, Jesus died for you.

You are already loved without limits by God. The right person will follow. The gal I love and care for has pushed me so far away and what makes it awkward is thst we work together. It truly breaks my heart for her.. I think that in itself scared her. She once told my best friend that his fiance needed him to be there for her, encourage her and be consistent.

I feel that came from. We agreed to take it very very very slow. Within a week she shut out again. Became very ugly, short, rude, etcetera. I try, at least. I never been in a relationship, never wanted to. In school I thought having a relationship is too childish or immature and later on I never talked or conversed enough with the guys to see if i like them.

I always categorize them into simple friends or in the brotherly status relationship. Not being in a relationship never bothered me. Wedding are sacred in my community and of course should be done in a timely manner. My family decided to find a guy for me. Its common in Indian community.

A real man is someone who's able to make decisions based on what he thinks is right, instead of what he feels like doing. If 'forever' is what you're looking for, then only a real man who has the self-discipline in him can deliver that promise to you. Some guys face difficulty opening up to their significant other because of the strong, brave, masculine front which they have taken all their life to build and polish.

Indeed, a man's honesty brings out his most vulnerable side. Whether his lover would take that part of him and embrace it or trample on it, he will never know. This is why honesty often takes more than it seems, and only a real man who is humble and sincere has the capacity to offer that to you. Not just because he trusts you, but also because he respects your desire for more of him. So if you ever find a man who can be honest with you about himself, treasure his openness and trust in you.

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Never dismiss it as no big deal, because by sharing his everything with you, he's actually making you his big deal. When a real man realises that he has done something wrong or hurtful to you, he takes responsibility. He doesn't beat around the bush, give excuses, or try to cover it up with more lies. He apologizes and he tries to seek for your forgiveness. Because he puts you first.

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A man who apologizes is a man who loves you more than he loves his ego. And if he is truly sorry, he will reflect upon his actions because he doesn't want to hurt you the same way again. And because he wants to be a better man for you. A real man ain't the jealous type. Or rather, he has grown out of it. He's secure in himself and your love for him. A sense of confidence glows from within him. He isn't untrusting or doubtful in the relationship. He doesn't compare himself to others, or you to others either.

Because of this, you are able to feel a sense of stability in the relationship. In comparison, a man who is insecure with himself often brings along that sense of insecurity into the relationship too. With him, the relationship is filled with unnecessary drama and conflict. Because he is unable to trust you fully, or perhaps, he doesn't even trust himself with loving you.

Personally, I don't believe in changing myself for the other person in the relationship, or waiting for them to change for me. I think sometimes people try too hard to make things work. I had been through that before, and things only got uglier. The motivation to change should come from within yourself, and not because of some pressure from somebody else. In one of my articles, The Difference Between Needing, Wanting And Loving Somebody , I shared about a friend's experience with her ex-boyfriend who had unreasonably high expectations of her.

Because she loved him, she was willing to make changes for him, like going to the gym with him, hanging out with his friends and family more, and etc. She was willing to do so much, so much for him, yet he's always nitpicking. It was as though she would never be good enough for him. A real man doesn't need you to change for him, because he loves you for who you are, whether at your best or your worst. If there is one thing I look for in love, it's security.

In view of this, I want a partner whom I know is going to be there for me, in sickness or in health, for better or for worse. Because that's what I'm gonna give him in the relationship too. A real man lets you know that you can rely on him by being consistent in both his words and actions. He lets you know that he tries his best for you every time.

He will not make promises that he knows he can't keep, or do things that he knows may sabotage the relationship. Because he wants to make sure that you feel safe and protected with him. A real man is independent and comfortable with living on his own. Because he is ready for a new chapter in his life, and he wants you and your goals in it too.

The opposite of a real man is someone who is constantly dependent on others when he's making decisions about his life. Ever dated a mama's boy?