Fractured Fathers

I was angry with my dad because when I look at this passage of Scripture , this is the kind of father I wanted but did not have. If you are like me, whether you choose to admit and acknowledge it or not, the anger towards your dad is impacting your life, relationships and yes, your children. But in the words of Benjamin Franklin, "whatever is begun in anger ends in shame. In order to break the cycle you have to learn how to forgive and be willing to forgive.

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I'm not sure who said it but "forgiveness is letting go of the life that you thought you wanted. But you have to realize that life was never based on what was actually possible. It was not based in reality or facts. It doesn't mean you did not deserve better, it just means that you cannot punish yourself or someone else for not living up to an idea. You have to "let go of the life that you thought you wanted. I heard a quote from a teenager once who said, "Unresolved pain becomes anger without a conscience. In as much as I thought I was over the painful experiences of my childhood I was not.

I had only become really good at suppressing them. There was a part of me that I did not like. The part of me that was angry and ashamed that I did not have a father. It was a part of me that told me I wasn't good enough and that I did not matter; a part of me that I did not love or feel was worthy of love because I believed that my dad didn't love me.

But as Pastor Phil Jackson once said, "When you do not love all of who you are, the part you do not love will cause a revolt. But God desires that we have peace and that we heal. His plan for your life is not for you to live a life based on past pain but on God's power to help you heal. As Fathers we have to overcome our fractures so that they don't impact our children and their futures. In other words, the places that caused your brokenness are the places you need to pray and ask God for a blessing.

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And at one point he says, I don't know about you, but after all that you have seen and been through I would still be angry. And she said, you should be angry; if you're not angry you're either a stone or you're too sick to be angry. But in your anger, she continued, you must not be bitter. Bitterness is like cancer; it eats upon the host and does not do anything to the object of its displeasure.

So use the anger, write, paint, talk it, and never stop talking it. You have a right to be angry, I had a right to be angry. But you do not deserve to be bitter. You deserve to heal and be made whole. You deserve that and your children deserve that. In fact you should be so angry that you are determined to make sure that another child, your child, does not have to experience the emotional pain you experienced.

When my kids were younger we use to go ice-skating all the time. My son was afraid to skate. Be A Devoted Dad. Badgering your kids and perpetually finding fault in them is unwise and unbiblical. Children are not to be discouraged by unreasonable demands. Disney World ought not be the happiest place on earth; the home should be. The father and his role as leader sets the tone of devotion and discipline to develop a culture of home as the happiest place on earth. Be A Disciplinary Dad. Men, if you are a drunk, your kids will more likely be drunks.

If you verbally abuse your wife, your son will be more likely to verbally abuse his wife. Fathers, your number one ministry should be to your family by presenting God to your children and presenting your children to God.

Jeremy Roberts

Present God to Your Children. Present Your Children to God. We present our children to God by intercessory prayer. How many of you are interceding for your family?

Lead your family in intentional times of prayer. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Your email address will not be published. This failure by David flies in the face of the teachings of Ephesians 6: His affair with Bathsheba is an example of this. A priest has two functions: Present people to God Face the People: How do you do this? Dads, lead your kids to Christ!