12 Ways to Get Your Ex Back

You are someone familiar who looks very attractive. You have to treat them like an acquaintance you want to get close with. They were together for almost 4 years before he decided to call it off.

1. The relationship ended somewhat amicably

She just said okay and gave him some space. He would reply to her messages. Slowly she started talking about the good memories together. She started talking about how she missed him. He said he misses her too and still loves her. But whenever she asked him to meet up, he would make an excuse. Mindy kept on speaking to him via text. It seemed to go well until she asked him to meet.

Every time he said no, Mindy felt rejected and lost hope. He wanted to explore his options. He was even going on dates while he was refusing to meet up with her as Mindy found out later. He thought that meeting up with her will make it difficult for him to keep his freedom. He thought that he might be cornered into getting back together. And on the other hand, he kept on speaking with Mindy because he wanted to keep her as an option. Mindy eventually started no contact and decided to heal.

Before contacting him again, we made sure that she has the right mindset about this. That she wants him back but does not need him. That if they get back together, it will be a new relationship and they will have to take things slow from the beginning. That he needed to be a different person as well if they wanted to make it work. When she contacted him, her ex was very excited.

This time, he asked to meet up. When they did finally meet up, Mindy was a little bit disappointed in him. He was still the same person. She felt that he was manipulative and controlling. He wanted to keep her as a backup while fooling around with other girls. She found out from her friends that he was dating a couple other girls as well. Mindy decided to cut him off and move on. She had enough confidence in herself to not be used by a man like this.

She found someone who respected her after a few months. When you meet your ex, your ex will be a little bit skeptical.

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And when they meet you, their bullshit radar will be turned on the highest settings. They will judge everything you say or do. They might even say things just to text your reaction. When you meet your ex, you should truly be prepared to lose them. If you still have neediness and desperation inside you, your ex will sniff it from a mile away. When you have finished no contact, come back to this page and take this test.

Imagine you are sitting with them in a coffee shop. Your ex looks happy and you are having a conversation. Suddenly, they tell you this,. We have amazing sex, and an amazing connection. But the level of disappointment you feel when you think this matters. Do you suddenly feel a knot in your stomach? Does it feel like your entire world came crumbling down? If the thought of your ex with someone else makes you feel extremely bad, then you are not ready to meet them yet. They will try to see if what you truly have changed or everything you have been saying and doing just a charade to get them back.

I call these the post breakup charade tests. For example, suppose you had an issue with jealousy and being controlling. They might casually bring up the fact that they went on a date just to see how you react. If you become angry or desperate, it will make them think that you have not changed at all and they will probably start ignoring you again after the breakup. Note that being calm is not the same as being a doormat. If something is important to you, stand up for it. But do so without getting angry or needy. It will help immensely if your communication skills are on point before you meet your ex.

I talk about them in this article on what to do after no contact. Mindy did no contact for only 2 weeks before she gave in and texted her ex. Her ex-boyfriend was very receptive, and they started talking regularly. After about 2 more weeks, they decided to meet. She built up her hopes and started getting ready for the meetup.

She got her hair done, got a makeup artist to do her makeup and put on her best dress for the meetup. When they met, they hit it off almost instantly. She felt the sparks flying as they were laughing and talking just like they used to before the breakup. I just want to make it clear that we are no longer a couple. The truth was, she had her hopes up. So much that when he said that, her face came on the verge of crying. And even though she managed to keep her tears from falling, her ex knew what was going on inside her.

He knew her for 4 years. He has seen that expression plenty of times before. Even though she acted like she is confident and happy, her ex knew that she still wanted him back and he can have her anytime he wants. Had she reacted in the right way, her entire post breakup relationship dynamics would have changed and she could have gotten her ex to start chasing her.

BTW, if you want to know exactly how Mindy should have replied, keep an eye out on this space. I will soon release a bonus report which will list some of the common Post Breakup Charade Tests and what you should to pass them with flying colors. So for your first date, just focus on having a good time with them.

If the topic of getting back together comes up, just listen to what they have to say. If they ask your opinion, just say that you still have feelings for them but you are not sure if getting back is the right decision. That you both should take things slow. Be skeptical about getting back together. This is why you must have an equal relationship with them. You want them to contact you as much as you contact them. You want them to try to meet up as much as you are trying to meet up.

This goes in line with being skeptical as I mentioned previously. You want to see how things are going with your ex. You have tried your best and showed them the best version of you. One of the concerns most people have at this stage is if their ex will put them in the friendzone. To avoid that, you just need to setup a few boundaries and have an equal relationship with them. But if you still feel they are trying to put you in the friend-zone, follow the three principles. If you are serious about getting your ex back, then I want you to take advantage of my experience by subscribing to my EBP Basics E-course.

I share much more insights in my free e-course that is designed to help you get through the no contact period and teaches you how to effectively get your ex back when you are ready. But before you can subscribe, you need to take a quiz to qualify. This quiz is designed to help you find out your chances of getting your ex back and for me to find out if you can qualify for the EBP Basics e-course. Just wanted you to know that of all the websites out there, you are the only one that sends useful emails with actual advice. Your emails helped me through one of the hardest time in my life.

I learned more from your website and the EBP Basics e-course than anywhere else! The names and certain details in the case studies have been modified to protect their privacy. This page originally had over 9k comments. Click here to read the old comments. Scroll down to read the comments. Before commenting, read commenting guidelines. Hey, my gf just broke up with me 5 days ago, we have been together for 5 years, she said that i left her alone and didn't care for her as much I used to do, 2 days after the breakup i asked her to meet up so i could tell her how I feel about it, I tried to win her back by apologizing and taking the blame, but she didn't want to come back, at least not so soon.

I just started no contact again and going to improve me and my mistakes on this time. Since it is a couple of weeks from now, you should be closer to the end of no contact by then and I think it would be okay if you decided to text her on her birthday to wish her and if her response is positive, you could end no contact and start on rebuilding attraction. Me and my bf recently broke up because i confessed to cheating on him. We dated for 10 months and made it official 6 weeks ago.

I eventually want him back but I feel like he hates me. This happened yesterday and now i know i should give him space but i hate myself for breaking his heart. Do you have any advice on how to cope with this and get through it? I felt like he was the love of my life and i just messed up. You can use this article for more guidelines on what to do if he broke up with you over a cheating incident. However, I showed myself needy and told her that I would like to have a serious relationship with her.

As a result, she told me that she would no longer go out with me. So, should I bot contact her and apply the steps of this article? Do you believe I have a chance to get her back? Perhaps since you've only dated her for a month, it would be better to let her know that you apologize for acting this way and go into no contact for about 2 weeks before you try reaching out to restart over as friends first. Thanks for your article it helps me a lot thinking. Me and my bf are friends before we get into serious relationship.

He is the one who ask for brek up. I just accepting his decision even if it makes me killing. I started your no contact 2days now. But we have a group chat in facebook together with our friends so How can i apply the no contact. My friends didn't know that we are in a relationship. And we both decided not to tell them about it. He act that everything is okay. He send messages, i read it. I don't want also to leave at the group. You don't have to leave the group for now but perhaps if it is affecting you to read his messages, you should mute the chat for now or ignore it until you feel more emotionally stable.

Hi, my ex broke up with me 20 days ago. During these 20 days I tried to contact him so desperately that even his family came to know about this and asked him to resolve whatever it was. Now, he says that this relationship is beyond repair and he doesn't want to keep anything with me, though he still takes my calls and responds to my texts. Do you think that I can still get him back? It would depend on how serious the relationship was and his feelings towards you. I suggest that you go into no contact now and give him some space first before you try winning him back.

So i left my wife about a year and half ago she suffered alot she wanted to be with me but i said no and now i feel iam ready to be back with her but she said no she had recently given me a chance to show her i ve changed but blew it and now that iam ready andshe doesnt believe me and says she no longer loves me i told her i wouldnt give up and i have to keep seeing her due to having a son.

Use those interaction opportunities as a chance to slowly regain her trust and show her that you've changed with your actions, and not simply words because she does not trust you enough at this point. We were dating for more than 2 years.. What shall I do? If she is serious about not wanting to go against her family, it might be a better idea to respect her decision and let go since you could end up bringing more problems and misery to her by making her choose between you or her family. I am in love with her and ready to marry her, something I was not before. I sent her a text on Sunday, the elephant in the room text I thought I was blocked but I sent it anyway it says delivered.

I think she read it, no response tho. If you happen to see her, you could be friendly and polite and it would be good to not lose yourself to any emotions felt and bring the relationship up. Otherwise, continue with no contact for now and give her more space to let go of any negative emotions she feels towards you. Hi, I am about to try the no contact but I have a feeling my ex will try and contact me. He uses snapchat to message me and I just wanted to know if I should leave his messages unopened or open but ignore?

It would be better to leave it alone and not open them so that he does not think that you're playing some petty game or purposely ignoring him. In the end she kind of got depressed and got attracted to a guy in the US that she met online we are from spain. Now she's talking to him everyday by cam, up to 5 hours a day. We could not have no contact because we lived together and had to get some of our stuff back and fix some other problems.

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She saw me 3 days ago, I was in tremendous shape, nice clothes and good mood, she cried a lot. Saw her yesterdays evening, same thing, she was frustrated, depressed and ended up crying in my arms. What do I do now? Work on building attraction again with her since it's clear that she is affected by you still, but perhaps drifted apart or lost connection with you during the relationship which happens often for couples who have been together for a long time. After the breakup we got closer sometimes and she started to doubt her choice as she saw me improving in many areas of my life. I slept at her place and she slept at mine a couple of times..

After that, she told me that she misses me a lot and that she feel awesome when we are together but she is sure about the choice she made breaking up with me and that we both suffered enough. She tells me how beautiful,smart etc i am every time we are alone,we have amazing sex, interesting discussions and loads of cuddles. I feel like there are some chances we will be back together and i dont want to screw it up even if i learned to live without her and my life is doing great, by analyzing our relationship and myself, I'm pretty sure we will be happy everyday together this time.

I am not the misanthropic depressed full of Ego bastard i have been before.. What should i do? Try to meet her more or should i go cold aswell so she will understand that she will loose me for good? I think i am doing good, never begged, never spoke about getting back together etc. So Im a lesbian. My ex, broke up with me and started a new relationship about 2 weeks after our breakup. Its been 3 months since then and we talk almost daily.

I know I've made so many mistakes intros 3 months to win her back, including letting her to cheat on her new gf with me. She says she wants to stay friends and don't want to end her new relationship.

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So what should I do? Her new relationship may be a rebound but she does not want to take the risk of ending it yet especially if doesn't have many issues and taking that leap to get back together if she is unsure of whether it would work since the first time did not end well. Give her some time to let her come to a decision and continue to build the comfort and attraction levels with her in the meantime. My gf dumped me about a month ago and the problem is that we still live together. We support each other financially and we can't move out. What would you recommend me to do to get get back?

Set boundaries around the house for the time being so that no contact can still be applied to a certain extent, which would at least give both parties some space to deal with their emotions. She is not even online anymore on whatsapp but is online on other social media, and I have more the impression that she is indefferent and its hard to believe that its an act nor that she thinks about me Then you'll most likely have to work on building the attraction again since she does not feel the same way towards you right now.

You can follow this article for more guidelines on rebuilding the connection with her.

My wife and I were married for 6 years, but the last two I was asleep at the wheel. Not participating enough in the family and not paying her enough attention. I was miserable from my job and I brought that frustration home. She had been getting attention from another guy towards the end as well. She even admits that when things were good, they were amazing. What do I do? If you're living in the same house as her, it would be a little tougher but as long as boundaries are set, no contact is still possible.

Avoid having personal conversations, perhaps set temporary boundaries around the house where both parties treat as their own personal space. It would even be better to avoid each other for the time being - sleeping in different rooms, coming back home at different times, going out more often, etc.

We broke up ove rne being very jealous of his past relationship. His mom and his ex girlfriend are really good friends. This made it hard for me to make a relationship with her. Tell your sister to stop sharing, go into no contact and follow the guidelines in our article to spend time working on yourself. Give each other some space for now before you reach out again later on.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 14 months. After I left for college she started to like someone else and left me for him. She still says she loves and cares about me but do I really have a chance to get her back? If the relationship you shared with her was a meaningful one, there's a good chance that she simply lost attraction or connection with you and this guy is a rebound.

In those circumstances, by following our guidelines, there's a good chance of winning her back if you're able to successfully connect back with her again. Hi Ryan or Ryan's team. I really appreciate that you actually respond to questions people have on here, it shows you care and that you're on top of it! I've recently gone through a breakup and started to implement NC, but my ex's phone is malfunctioning and telling him that I called when I haven't it shows missed calls from earlier in the week, but shows up as missed calls from yesterday or today.

Because of this, my ex thinks I've been calling him and he's reached out to explain that there's something going on with his phone but he isn't trying to ignore me. I know you're 1 not supposed to break NC or 2 tell them you're going NC, but his malfunctioning phone is messing with the NC and making it seem like I'm calling him. Or should I leave all of it be and only say something if he tells me he's gotten more missed calls a second time? NC isn't ultimately set in stone and merely serves as a guideline to giving both parties space. It's fine to reply to him if you wish to clarify and avoid any animosity later on when you reach out, as long as you don't prolong this conversation or start discussing personal matters or the relationship.

My ex left me after 2 weeks of silence. That it had nothing to do with me and that he just needed some space. After 2 weeks of that he says he needs to move on from me, and all these other excuses that just didnt make any sense. I feel like his stress has overcome him and he just pushed me away.

I am at day 5 of no contact and I just miss my best friend so much. Was it really his personal struggles that he had or was it just an excuse to leave me? It could have very well been either reasons, and only he would know which it is. You could reply politely but find an excuse to leave after that, especially if you aren't ready to face him yet. You could meet her to talk but if you want to win her back, avoid getting emotional or act needy during the interaction.

Your goal is to show her from this meetup about the changes you've made, how you're more confident and positive nowadays, and basically to establish a friendship again with her first before eventually working towards something more. HIi I hurt my gf deeply but we still talk. I am in long distance relationship. She didn't break up with me but she says she is bored and tired of texting me and that she needs some freedom and space from me. But still she texts me every few days to tell me about how broken she is. According to your suggestion i should not reply her during no contact phase.

But wont she think that i do not care about her? Wont she get more mad and leave me permanently? You could tell her politely that you'll need some space to process the breakup, because you can't heal properly by picking yourself up from the breakup but still having to remain in contact with her. I wanted to take a moment and give you a big thank you for writing this article and sending me emails.

I really look forward to them. I tell my friends I have a life coach! So my situation is a little unique. I met this guy in a dating app Jan we dated for 8 months and initiated a serious relationship. I broke up with him several times because of his ex girlfriend being such a shadow in our relationship. His mom and his ex are triple besties. Making it even hard for me to like his mom. I feel guilt in my heart for being verbally abusive and acting immature.

Is there a chance we could work out? I see him hiding his phone and taking hours to text me back I even see him following other girls on social media. Is this relationship worth saving? The definition of worth saving is entirely up to you and how you view him along with the relationship. As the breakup was still relatively recent, it's normal that he may not feel comfortable being in contact with you hence his delayed replies but as for hiding his phone, it usually would indicate that he might be talking to other people but is afraid of you finding out.

My girlfriend dumped me because she said she had lost her feelings for me. She is a very outgoing person and likes to have fun like other single people. So in my case, will she think about me during the no contact period? Do i still have a chance even though she felt that texting me was more like a responsibility rather than willingly She may initially feel liberated and enjoy having the freedom of being single, but usually there comes a point when the gap where you used to be may get to her and she begins to reminisce about the relationship or you.

Hello, Im a guy 35 hes After one year he has asked for "space". Im still in love with him and this was bound to happen with our age gap and distance. Yet despite that, we had been meeting with me obviously pleading embarrassingly with him to change his mind. Now that he is in a relationship, are there any positive chances to get him back. Great read this article has been though and having gone through it eight days before i have never contacted him again and im eager to make it to at least 30 days, but what are the chances and is it ethical. Your chances are definitely going to be there as long as the relationship was a meaningful one.

However given his age in particular, there could be a chance that he's also exploring at this stage of life and being with someone older was simply an experience he wanted to try but still felt more comfortable at the end of the day being with someone closer to his age. Continue with no contact and after you're done, you could reach out to him to see where he stands on being friends again.

You'll have to do things a step at a time starting as friends, before you're able to rebuild attraction further, so the best advice I can give you is to remain patient and avoid building up unnecessary expectations. Me and my BF have been dating a for a year in a long distance relationship about 3 hours driving distance. He does not like when guys hit on me via social and they leave comments under photos.

I have told them to stop posting heart eyes and and even deleted them as friends. My ex broke up with me after one person has left 3 different comments over the last few months. I have no control over what others do and I don't know what else to do to get him to see that. I have made the mistake of contacting him day after day asking that we try to amend things, but he keeps repeating he is done and wishes me well. But finally today I came across this site and decided to give him the space hes asked for so that he may come back to me and so he has time to think things through without me being "Needy or desperate".

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It has only been 5 days and he is still replying to some text but refuses to speak to me over the phone. I am going crazy, especially since we were coming up on our "Official" 1 year anniversary in 2 weeks. I will do my best for the 30 day no contact. I want to be with him, get married, start a family and live a great life together. Hopefully this advice works. Hey i just have a question about no contact. My ex and I are in a group chat with all of our friends, on snapchat. If i leave that group chat, I lose access to last minute plans and activities that my friends are doing.

Unfortunately, he is also in that group chat. I haven't directly answered any of his snaps, yet he still sees everything I send and I see everything he sends. I'm not willing to let go of access to my friends, since they are the only thing keeping my mind off of him. I have been initiating no contact for around 9 days now, so basically, will it affect the effectiveness of no contact if I still see pictures of his face and what he's doing everyday and vice versa? Should I leave just for the no contact period? You could stay in the chat group if its important to you, but perhaps avoid opening his snaps where possible to not get emotionally caught up and you can still continue sending stuff to your friends because it doesn't matter if he sees it or not.

Thank you for answering me. I just got the logic vs emotion email and I just need to check if I have any chances getting my man back. My cousin texted him the other day without me knowing, to get his side of what happened. He ended up responding with "breaking up with her wasn't an easy decision at all but too many tings in the relationship needed to change and they weren't being fixed. It wasn't easy but I really think it's the best decision for us moving forward" To me that sounds like logic, not emotion. Honestly, is there any chance for me to get him back? W were together 3 years and 1 week.

I think it was a pretty meaningful relationship. My boyfriend and I recently broke up about 5 days who. It was pretty mutual. I just wanted to work things out, but he supposed a breakup was better for us. We asked how each other were and as I walked away he opened his arms to hug me. I would just like some advice as to rekindle our romantic relationship and be with him, for good. It's normal to be feeling this way so soon after the breakup, and you should allow for some time to pass to before you start trying to rekindle the romance in the relationship again.

Use this time to figure out where it went wrong and to see if they are aspects which can be rebuilt or not. So, great article by the way. However me and my ex have been separated for almost a month now, and it is funny because most of the things you talk about I am doing. She once called me at in the morning and said it was an accident, but I know it wasn't however I am not ready to explore her again because I don't feel ready. But let me explain, I met her on a dating site, I wasn't expecting to fall in love because I had just gotten out of a toxic relationship and was just trying to meet and greet and work on my self confidence, through dating.

The first person I met was her and everything was perfect. That was until my ex narcissist girlfriend got involved. The new girl backed off after a while, and I will admit after my ex got evolved things changed a little bit because I wasn't sure what she would do. I was kinda always looking over my shoulder as well as old WAR wounds came back. The thing is me and the new girl loved each other a lot and was on the same page, even talked about moving in together after only being together for a month. It seemed so effortless. We both have kids and our kids all loved being together and around us.

I'm sure she is dating which I am fine with, and I keep getting hit up by women to date which I will soon explore. We are both very attractive people inside and out so it's hard to keep the men and women away. If everything had really fit perfectly and you guys were good together, then it's definitely worth it to try and win her back.

You just have to be certain that your feelings for her and your thoughts on this relationship is genuinely because of her as your partner, and not simply a rebound. I've been applying the no-contact rule for a month now. I'm feeling better, I have no idea how she is feeling. My initial plan was to do a long no contact, like 3 months, because she was extremely adamant about the breakup and is a very determined girl in general It was a loss of connection and attraction dumping, btw.

And I think she wanted to experience a period of being single since she's been locked up in various relationships basically forever, which influenced me to think the longer period would be wise. I am thinking about contacting her either at the end of November or middle of December Breakup was Sept 1. Would that be too long? I want to let her anger about my mistakes cool down, but still strike while she has feelings for me, but also give her enough time that she doesn't feel like she had any chance of being single in her mind. It really would depend on her personality and how badly things got towards the end of the relationship, but generally I think that end of November should be fine.

I split from my ex after I found out he had cheated. He tried for a year to get me back, doing all the things you listed that just made him completely unattractive to me. Constant texts, begging me to take him back, all that sort of thing. I was adamant it was over. I really thought I was over him. It happens to many people, and usually for the reason that it's human nature to want what we can't have, resulting in the sudden burst of feelings in wanting him back upon realizing that he has actually walked away. I suggest that you remind yourself on why it didn't work out in the first place and stay logical about this matter, because this feeling you have for him is usually an illusion in most cases and doesn't last.

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Hey, I love this article. My ex and I broke up a month ago, I broke up with him, but then I came back telling him I wanted him back. He said he needed space to value me again, then when I started being too Clingy he said he just wanted to be friends I felt hurt and I hated the way he was treating me. If you guys have broken up, whether you wish him or not honestly would not make any difference to the situation because it's simply a formality.

I would personally suggest not to break no contact and risk losing all your progress in these two weeks in the event you get emotionally caught up with speaking to him and begin to feel upset all over. This site is the best. Thanks to the team. I have gotten back my ex back and this time he showers me with more love, affection and attention but there's one concern though. He really fantasize about cuckolding. How do I let him stop bringing it to me? Over 4 years we have been together. I suggest you be firm on the boundaries of the relationship and let him know that it's something that would never happen.

My girlfriend of 2 years dumped me in August 24th, basically because we had no communication. I didn't make the mistakes and give her space. Two weeks ago she text me saying she misses my dog and ask to see him. She keeps texting me bringing some dramas as well, but I'm not reacting at all maybe because I don't care. If, on the other hand, things ended with some degree of love and respect, there is still a chance you can work things out and get him back.

You get the idea. You have to be careful here. Every couple will confront problems in life, and in order to have a strong and happy relationship you have to be able to work through them together. What if you have significant financial problems again down the road? What if you need to live apart at some point due to career choices? But sometimes you grow together because of the problem and the problem also goes away—like if you come to an understanding about how you each view money because of a financial conflict, and whatever the conflict was also goes away.

In this case, future financial problems can be faced better because you know your partner better. How Guys Deal With Breakups. Maybe now you can see that your insecurities caused problems, or maybe he realizes it was his immaturity, or most likely it was a combination of the two. The critical thing to remember here is that chances are, you both needed to work on things about yourselves that were causing problems in the relationship.

Remember that maturing takes time. It takes time to dig into our issues and look at the ways they cause us to sabotage our relationships, and a lot of hard work to fix them! Next, how are you interacting with him? Bringing maturity into the relationship means that you are able to give your partner space to have their negative emotional reactions without reacting to it yourself. You can forgive them for not being perfect. When you give them space to be as they are and you can view them through a lens of compassion, love and understanding, it may become readily apparent that you and this other person want very different things.

Maturity is about your capacity to give the other person space to be as they are without needing them to be any other way. That is to say, not blaming the other person, not resenting the other person, not attacking the other person. If you can truly forgive him for whatever happened the first time around, and he can truly forgive you, you may be able to work it out. You have to be willing and able to wipe the slate clean and start fresh.

First, ask yourself if he seems able to forgive you. Some things are unforgivable, and everyone has a different threshold for what that is. Can you get over him cheating on you? Can you look past him ghosting on you? Admit your mistakes and apologize. You have had time to evaluate your relationship. Now is the time to admit to your mistakes and tell her that you are sorry. This shows her that you have matured and put a lot of thought into what happened between the two of you.

She will also begin to see how you have taken steps to become a better man. This can be done in person or on the phone. It is better not to have long or emotional conversations through text messaging. Ask her on a date. Now that you and your ex have been communicating, ask her if she would like to go on a date or hang out. Try to be very casual and polite when you ask her. Do not make this out to be a big deal.

Try saying, "Hey, do you want to go get coffee or something? What would it hurt? Tell her, "I respect that you don't want to meet up, let me know if you change your mind. It would be great to see you. To win her back, you must do all of the things that you did to make her interested in you the first time. If you used to send her flowers or write her sweet notes, begin to do those things again. Think of this opportunity as a new relationship. You need to make her fall for you again.

This will only make you look insecure or weak. You want her to take you back because you are a great guy not because she feels sorry for you. Avoid bringing up the past. You and your ex are starting over again. Focus on the positive things that made your relationship work the first time around. If she enjoyed your cooking, prepare a nice meal for her. Focus on building new memories with her. She needs to see how things will be different this time around.

You cannot pick up where you left off when you get back together. Treat this as a new relationship. Take your time and get to know each other again. You also do not want to overwhelm her or put pressure on her to get back together. Focus on building a strong friendship. Go out on dates and do activities together. Learn her likes, dislikes, and habits again. Hold off on the physical aspect of the relationship and spend more time talking.

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Know when to give up. If your ex completely resists all of your effort, you need to respect her decision. If she tells you to leave her alone or that she has moved on, you need to move on as well. Being too needy and persistent will make you look bad and could ruin any chances of getting her back in the future. If she has a new boyfriend, be respectful of her new relationship. Do not try to get her to break up with her new boyfriend.