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I am now back in Ct. I am taking him to court over this….. There is no money. I gave my share of the home to my brother so that he would have a place to live rent free, just pay taxes and utilities. Brother is very resentful and sensitive, although mother rescued him from the streets and took care of him financially for the past fifteen years or so. I try to send money when I can and buy them things like food and clothing.
I live too far away to help in any other way. I am POA, trustee and Executor of my dad. He is living with my ex drug addicted half sister, that since Mid-Nov. When I thought my dad was going to die I closed his account and reported it stolen only to go into the bank and learn that he had a line of credit out that needed to be paid since the account is in both my dads and my name.
She is a liar and accused me of being creedy and I would have to answer to God. I am not and will not ever speak to that low life again. Just last summer she was taking his pain meds and other money he would give her.
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Now,they are living in my grandmas house free of rent once again. My Father had recently listed his home for sale and they moved into an assisted living facility. Now my mom lives with me and it was better for me to just let my siblings go. My older brother is severely disabled, so I was born with a job.
If any of you have a brother or sister that behaves this way and you truly love your elder, take matters into your own hands and use violence. I suspect they will go running back to the rocks they crawled out from after they discover that and I will be left to deal with it. Yes, she has been taking care of my dying dad since Nov. Some of my family members think she is great, if they only knew how much of a manipulator she is and a liar.
Also, all she does is scream and yell and has a bunch of drama. I want to use this medium to alert all loan seekers to be very careful cause there are scammers everywhere who rob genuine loan seeker of their money. I was financially down few months ago, and during the cause of getting an affordable loan I was scammed by several online lenders.
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It tells me what I could expect from them in the time of need. I would rather accept what they show me, move on and find friends who reflect my beliefs about caring for elderly loved ones. Why do folks Have such negative feelings about assisted-living. My mom enjoyed the activities and companionship. We also were included in activities. The difference was that we could have a full nights sleep and be refreshed to enjoy their company.
Do you need an urgent loan? My family consist of 2 brothers and 1 sister. Well as of feb when everything went crazy. My youngest brother went to prison and my parents began to get sick with no one stepping up to help I chose to do it.
While my brother was fighting in court which I made every aperience with him he was sentenced to 7 years. Now this leaves me to take care of his animals and home, my home and my parents which in they where 79 years old. I sold my home and split the money with my parents a year after this started. Now that my younger brother is in the home my mom wants to reverse everything and give him the majority of what ever will be left when she dies. When the fighting gets going I feel like I gave up the last years of my life and sold the only security I had for them only now to worry every day that soon I will not even have a home.
This has all been so unfair and my heart is broken that my mother would do this to me.
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My mom wants to sell the house open that trust and sell the house. The only important things in her life has always been money and materialistic things. I never bargained to live with my brother and he has no intentions on leaving and I have no where to go. People kept telling me not to sell my home but for my parents I had to do it to prove that I loved them. I stay in my bedroom and after me taking care of cooking bathing and driving her every where she does for that lazy sob she cooks for him and cleans after him so I just decided if she can do all of that for him then she can do it for both of them.
What I really want to know is do I have any legal rites to anything can she be made to pay me an amount of money and let me leave. My heart aches all the time and while doing this my health has detoriated so bad. From lifting her everyday all day my back is in really bad shape. I wish my dad was here to guide me but then again we lived in such a bad home from her controlling all of what went on if anyone can suggest or if they know what I can do please reply and help. Please tell me where I can go to get help if u know thanks.
I have been caring for my father who has dementia. My brother mows the grass. My other siblings might come by an hour a week.
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And the word is might. I have an mother 85 years old that lives by herself,I have a brother that never held a job in his life,he refuses to take a bath and wash his clothes,he looks homeless,my mother allows him to live in her other home free of charge,pays for his car insurance ect. Caregiving is not Free and costs a great deal- in time, sanity, socialization, relationships, living, freedom, lost wages.
The list goes on. Thanks for sharing an informative post. Hope everybody will be helped by it. I am going to read your other articles. I am so sorry for the guilt trip you are experiencing. You do have to take care of yourself without guilt. We will head for Oregon if that time comes for us, where euthanasia has been legal for some years now. There was nothing stopping her from doing cognitive testing and checking out in Switzerland, they have had medical aid in dying since the s.
Instead she did nothing knowing you will look after her. I would just set aside 30K for Dignitas and spare your own child. He was already up in age at this time. Well big surprise, my Dad became very dependent on my Sister doing various things and he decided to quit driving and basically become pretty much housebound. Personally I live in the same town plus miles away and I have my own health issues to deal with that my Sister conveniently will ignore for the most part until I blow up at her which just happened. She calls us up and was pretty much going to drive my Dad to our house and drop him off after a recent two day stay in the hospital without previous discussion or talking.
Family never ceases to amaze me. Now the guilt trip starts I guess. Anne ,do you have POA? If so, no one is allowed near their money but you and them. My brother lives in Texas, me and our dad in Georgia. I pay his bills, my brother his power bill and phone online. He has no problem with how the money is spent bills and grocery. My dad sponsored all her children to come over to the US and they still act phony when around us.
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I have not actually been this situation but know someone who cared for both his parents alone for 8 years until his mother passed away Alzheimers. It has caused no end of arguments and trouble. His father is now in hospital after having had pneumonia, the other two siblings are also burnt out and the level of care required by his father means that he will have to be admitted to a care facility when a place becomes available.
Hi Jenny, I am not in a position to unsubscribe you — you will need to contact admin for that. I am so glad to have found this forum. At least I know now that I am not the only person in this difficult situation. When I relocated to be closer to my children and grandchildren, he assumed that I had done so in order to look after my mother. He thinks I should be the one to do so since I am not married divorced and somehow imagines this means I have less responsibility instead of more — and no one to help carry the load.
I am resisting taking on the role at all costs, although as I am nearby I am called on at times to help out which I am willing to do.
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Despite saying repeatedly that she intends to do so my mother has not yet made me an emergency contact she has a personal alarm. My older sister and I have barely spoken for 12 years and when I phoned her to suggest that Mum needed more assistance and care, she completely ignored me. I was left to care for my grandfather during the day when he was dying. I was 16, turning 17 during the time I was caring for him.
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He was a very kind and gracious man and I did not mind looking after him — preparing meals and making cups of tea and coffee etc. However, my uncle and mother consider that they were the ones who looked after him. I was not given adult information at the time no one told me he was dying and had no idea what I should do in an emergency — if he stopped breathing etc.
This is a good news to all cancer victims. Ultimately, you have to care for yourself. Everyone is busy but when you sacrifice yourself down to a nervous breakdown, no one benefits. In your heart you know you did what was right and what you could humanly do. Keep your chin up and guard your heart. You have my respect. My dad passed away a year ago. I was there every weekend, he called when he needed something. I paid all the bills, etc.
I work full-time and a single mom. When he was on his death bed my sister said I never did anything for dad. His last days were filled with taking things out of the house they should not have. I am also the executor so they were angry with that. Not only did I lose both of my parents but my family also. My advice, take care of yourself. My husband and I have a pact. The list is endless. There are no historic precedents for this rampant epidemic of extended life without quality of life. It is the unintended consequence of modern medicine and a societal mess we need to address realistically.
My husband and I are lucky in one regard—our daughter is fully self-supporting. Aging and dying slowly in this world has become a nightmare of extended misery. It destroys the living and the dying, equally. Our mother is as much the victim of it as we are, and if given a painless choice, would most likely have taken it when she still had her mind.
How much suffering will it take before we do the only decent and compassionate thing: I have two sisters who would visit once a week! As mybmoms health was declining my sisters were in denial moms health declined in a three week period she was bed ridden unable to feed her self became confused there was a few nights she would talk all night not making any sense! My mom was my world if she would call on me all night I was there I would tell her call me every five mins. Mybeldest sister asked me why what brought this on she was fine earlier!
All funeral arrangements were made without me! Both sisters are not speaking to me! If I could care for my mom all over again I would! Then, my Dad suddenly took a massive turn for the worse, so I sent an email explaining how bad things had gotten and instead of help, I was called a liar by my two siblings and one of their wives. I was so overwhelmed, I started having such negative thoughts and it scared me. I packed my bags and was ready to go. I felt bad for scaring my parents, but I told them to call my brother because he needed to come over and take care of them.
I was packed and ready to walk out the door. He finally agreed to start helping Dad. But this morning, Dad was rushed to the hospital with pneumonia which completely explained what I had told my siblings. So, I was no longer a liar, but still treated like a social pariah. Wow,this article is spot on in regards to my family situation at present….
My sister, is doing, the same thing. My mother will give up, stop eating and die!!! She has the power of attorney. I have NO Answers. My story is a little different. As the daughter-in-law I have been responsible for looking after my mother-in-law since If there was an appointment she needed to get to of any great distance I was expected to be the one to take her. As her health concerns grew I took on more and more responsibility.
This was a gradual process and I have few regrets. However, the last five years have been very taxing on me. The responsibility has been great. All the in-laws live away and come to visit two to three times per year. Some are home for an extended period of time. However, the thing that hurts me the most is the fact that none of my in-law family ever took the time to visit my brother. My brother is disabled and has lived in care for 30 years. There was no expectation that they would be responsible for helping me look after him or doing anything for him.
Just an expectation that perhaps just once or twice they would have said they wanted to visit him. He has lived 5 minutes away since , relatively close from a time perspective and a visit would only take a short time. I brought this matter up very kindly with my sister-in-law when she was home over the holidays. She got very defensive and has not mentioned it since.
No apology or sense that maybe they should visit him. I just saw this article, after having a discussion with one of my sisters about my mom. My mom has lived with me for nearly eight years and her mobility is getting even worse. I am getting exhausted having to deal with some of the things I deal with, when it comes to having a live-in parent. I have really bad days, when I lose my temper, and lost it today. Mom Loves Me Best: A humorous celebration of the joys--and horrors--of being a female with a sister. Here is the final word on rivalry of the sisterly sort.
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