They are the ineffective attempts of someone screaming to be seen and heard through validation from an outside source. But frequently, these are the exact behaviors that prevent us from feeling loved, being promoted, or included on an important team. The constant need for validation actually inhibits others ability to see our value.
And in leaders, these are the behaviors that create isolated micro-managers instead of inspirational leaders who motivate, empower and hold people accountable. Although chasing after self-esteem can motivate excellent performance, performance itself is not a fundamental human need, and it can be achieved through other, less destructive sources of motivation.
Recognition and acknowledgement are not the same as love or acceptance, and they do not create the safety and security people desire. Notice how these behaviors are actually creating disconnection and sabotaging your progress towards what you most desire — validation. Trust that authentic validation originates from inside us — not externally. It is not something we get from others. We only can authentically get it from ourselves and then, when our internal reservoir of validation is overflowing; we can share it with others. But we MUST do so with no expectation!
There it is again. My desire for external validation. If you feel yourself ready to raise your hand, interrupt, defend your position, talk over someone else, or start to craft a response that rather than contributing value to the conversation instead showcases what you know on the topic, ask these three questions: Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said by me now?
At the end of each day make a list of everything you did well. And then read that list and give yourself a big pat on the back for a job well done! To do a little test of your progress, ask someone close to you if you can email your list to them everyday. Ask them not to respond. Then see how you feel when you share it without expectation. Are you so invested in getting their feedback that it distracts you or upsets you?
You may learn some fascinating things about just how much you depend on others opinions to determine how you feel about yourself. Notice others doing little things well. Be sure it is authentic and casually, gently, and subtly start giving out the acknowledgement and validation you used to seek for yourself.
Notice how you feel. Pay attention to small shifts and changes in yourself. Are you feeling more confident? Less of a victim? Are you feeling more authentically noticed? Do more of what feels good. The only place that we can truly access feelings of contentment, confidence, acknowledgement, and esteem is in our core.
They are tapping into the reservoir of self-validation that they created. They are curious learners and not clamoring to get anything from others. Which would you like to be? How Systems Create Freedom and Prosperity! When I invited our guest, Henry Gornbein, to be on the show a few weeks ago, I realized I had triggered a Signature System that allowed this radio show to almost run without me. It actually does too except for my time during the show. There are a dozen or more steps that take place flawlessly between the time that I invite a guest to be on the show, till the moment I start the show each week.
I remember sitting down with my first assistant, Megan, years ago, and telling her all the steps that I believed needed to happen to make the show run smoothly. In addition, there is a whole process going on with the radio station itself. That makes our job easier on our end. Megan documented all the steps, even adding things I had missed and then added the steps to our operations manual.
When she left to go grad school, our new assistant, Jillian, was able to pick up the manual and take over the process without me getting involved. This is a secret to avoid creating a bottle neck in your systems. At one point, we added social media promotions, and ended up with two people running the process. Some might think that systems are confining, but for me, systems give me freedom, and increase my income, confidence and happiness. Where are the places in your life and your business that you can create systems? Both positions are important and one is not better than the other.
The sooner you can identify your strengths, passions and unique abilities, the happier, healthier and wealthier your life will be. The Back Stage People: They love that work and excel at it. I call her the executer, because as soon as I give her a task, I can guarantee that it will be done on time, and much better than I could ever do it. I am a Front Stage Person: I know what needs to be done and the sooner I hand it off to my backstage person the better. BTW, I love to delegate! Creating systems, give you freedom to focus on what you do best while delegating the rest.
I create systems for everything. Get out a piece of paper, and draw a line down the middle and on one side write down all the things you are fantastic at, the things that bring you passion, that generate revenue effortlessly for you, the things that you would do for free.
In addition, write down all the things that are going well for you in your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Also list all the ways that you sabotage your health, your relationships, wellbeing, and self care on this side of the paper. Now I want you to spend some time to study the left side of the paper to figure out how to incorporate the things you love and that will bring you optimal health, joy and wellbeing in your life. The final step is to take the time now, with your team to have them create systems for every single thing that they are doing for you and to document these all in a manual.
This way if anyone on your team leaves, you still have all the steps, contacts, passwords and files, so the next person can step right in and take over for them. This will give you peace of mind and will increase your time, energy and money! To get your F. What is your story. Stories play a powerful role in our lives. The stories we tell ourselves about ourselves are the most impactful.
Positive stories can help us launch dreams, achieve our goals and propel us to the next level. Negative stories can do quite the opposite. And most significantly, negative stories can create disconnection from others. When working with individuals and teams, the following types of negative stories may their ugly heads. Do you notice anything familiar — from you or from those around you?
For the victim, other people do bad, stupid or mean things and the victim suffers as a result.
And the victim always seems to omit the role that they played in the issue. This allows them to continue being the hapless victim. Villain storytellers overemphasize the guilt of others. People who rely on villain stories tend to stay very stuck because after all, look at who they are constantly dealing with — villains!
Helpless stories allow us to suffer in silence. Do you see yourself or anyone else you know in any of these examples? We all slip into a negative story at one time or another. But some people live there. Negative stories serve many purposes. To get us off the hook and create convenient excuses. To avoid admitting that we have acted against our own sense of what is the right thing to do. We said yes to something we wanted to say no to or vice versa. We become defensive during feedback even though we know we should have listened because it was valuable. How to Engage with a Negative Story When someone is in an endless cycle of negative story telling, gently inquire about his or her story.
What are your thoughts? Check in with the storyteller around what they could have done differently. He has always been a pretty fair guy when it comes to raises. What might you have done differently? As a manager, sometimes this person needs to learn or relearn how to structure a plan to get things accomplished, solve problems or move forward. Take a serious look at how you interact with the helpless employee, friend or family member. When you hear the helpless story, resist the urge to solve it and instead ask what they recommend to solve the problem and then tell them to get back to you and let you know how it went.
Negative stories show up most frequently as the precursor to challenging dialogue that goes badly. The stories are used to avoid having hard conversations. Be on the lookout for the use of negative stories by yourself and by others so that you can learn to spot them. How old do you think Aunt Bee was when she started on the show? She was just 58! Most women today are taking much better care of themselves. Many are more active and most plan to stay engaged in some form of work during their entire lifetime.
Over the last 30 years, I have worked personally with hundreds of couples and individuals helping them design the perfect retirement plan both personally, professionally and financially. Here is the secret to a successful retirement. It must incorporate three parts: Health, Wealth and Happiness. This is true prosperity. You really want all three.
I remember, 10 years ago, when I was raising my daughters and working full time. I did not make time for myself and it cost me my health and was part of the reason I retired at Today, 10 years later, I have reinvented midlife and health comes first. I am healthier and more active today than I was then…and I am certainly happier and wealthier.
Last week, I was talking to a dear friend of mine who is also a financial advisor and because she too has been in the industry for almost 30 years now, her clients are aging. During our conversation, she shared with me that she was so depressed because she had seen three different clients the day before and two of them had cried during the meeting because even though they had all this money, they could no longer enjoy it because of their failing health.
The other was distressed because she too had all this money but no one to enjoy it with. So my suggestion is at Midlife — self-care comes first. My personal trainer says that you can improve your health and strength up until the time you are So his suggestion is to start taking care of yourself and become your best today.
Then you can take your 70s into your 90s. Ernestine Shepherd is a great example of this. She was out of shape at 57 and began to work out. Self, Family and Friends and then Work or Money. Envision your ideal life three years from now? What would have to be happening for you to be happy, healthy and wealthy — meaning you have more than enough? What would you life look like? Now take out a piece of paper and write this out for yourself in this order: Now create your own and print it out. You can make a vision board, read it daily, meditate on it. But keep it where you can see it. Then each day, I check off everything that I did.
So remember at Midlife — self-care comes first. Well a few weeks ago, with all the power of positive yes-thinking behind it, I went to Mike Robbins' website and lobbed in a contact request to see if, on extremely short notice, he could kick off the season of The Best Ever You Show. Hope you will listen and share our show: More About Mike Robbins. He has inspired tens of thousands of people around the world to reach new levels of awareness and productivity, both personally and professionally. Prior to his speaking, writing, and consulting career, Mike was drafted by the New York Yankees out of high school.
After his athletic career was cut short by injuries, Mike worked in sales and business development for two Internet start-ups. He has extensively studied many disciplines of both personal and professional development, and received training from the Coaches Training Institute. The Three Gears of a Relationship.
Like driving, relating has gear-like phases. To move ahead smoothly together, we need to learn to sense when each gear is needed. If we fail to do so, our relationship will stall or, worse yet, come to a screeching halt which, sadly, can devastate lives and careers. Where exactly have we been? We make time to straighten our homes, and reconnect with friends.
Productive and competitive again, we work long and hard to plan our wedding and pay for it, to rent an apartment or buy a home and furnish it, to move in together, to plan for children, fund IRAs or Ks, buy stocks and put away money for our life together. Division of labor is what we call it but loneliness is what it feels like from time to time.
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And what about our plans and dreams, the unique contributions we want to make? Do we still love each other? Should we stay together? Here are the questions we need to ask ourselves: Do we begrudgingly stay together and move into anger and disappointment? Do we divorce and start over again with someone new? Honey, we love each other dearly, what can we do to re-create our relationship? Can we find a regular sitter and set up a date night? Or take a class or start a project we can enjoy and share? A quick review of the gears: About Susan Ford Collins. She began her career as a young researcher at the National Institutes of Health with a radical idea: With more than two decades studying HSPs and two additional decades working with them, she now shares what she has learned about leadership and management.
The Technology of Success book series includes: The Joy of Success: I am not apologizing for that. The term battle royale comes from ancient Rome when two gladiators would fight until only one was left standing. Luckily we have evolved past such unproductive ways of being. Likely the original incident was long ago.
Because it takes at least two to have this level of on-going, sustainable conflict, both people somehow felt not heard, not respected, not appreciated, not loved, not seen or not remembered. It is that pain and hurt, shame and humiliation, sadness and grief that keep the fire of the battle raging. The pain has to be healed by each of us — within ourselves first! No one in leadership was quite sure how it started, but it was causing a disruption within the organization. Both employees were valued and so leadership was willing to try coaching as a way to remedy the situation.
After confidential interviews with everyone in the department not directly focused on the incident or the two people — but focused on the stress , I could see that the fall out was impacting everyone. Publicly they were business like and polite, but the elephant in the room was making everyone uncomfortable, distracted and tense. Then everything will be perfect again. The tiny sliver into which I could insert some suggestions that would facilitate change through self-awareness.
I asked her to think back to the original situation. No matter how tiny or insignificant, what do you regret or feel badly about? Maybe even a little ashamed. All the years of holding her gladiator stance came tumbling down. The release of soft tears, the softening of her heart and opening to possibilities were visible. As we closed the session, I offered a suggestion for consideration. And within a few more days her colleague had followed her modeling and done the same. The relationship has slowly and gently progressed into a highly effective working relationship.
Clearing out our internal gladiators takes a willingness to look inside instead of at our opponent — but what develops from that momentary discomfort is well worth it! Do you see yourself in this example? That is because we are all human and this type situation comes up in every setting I work. While the strategy is the same, the situation is a compilation of several stories.
Before quitting your job, taking an early retirement to start a business in retirement, there are three steps I recommend you take: Neither is better than the other — they both play very different and important roles. You can be an engineer, CPA, consultant, graphic designer, yoga teacher, and be in either one of these roles.
A young lady who worked for me a few years ago had an engineering degree from U of M, with a specialization in accounting and got a job as a financial planner after graduating. She passed all her exams and loved working on the financial analysis. She thought she had found a career she loved until she was told that it was now time to get on the phone and find clients. She ended up leaving the career feeling like a failure. This is sad, yet it happens so often. Online Assessment and Consultation: Video Course and receive her weekly money, mindset and manifesting articles on attracting more wealth, joy and ease into your life, visit www.
How to Find The Right Doctor. Whether we are holistically inclined or not, whether we have a knowledge and acceptance of alternative modalities or not, having a great MD on hand is always important. But what should we look for in a doctor? What makes an MD exceptional? While medical school provides doctors with fundamental knowledge, it is a variety of qualities, many of which are not taught in medical school, the separate great doctors from the rest. Open Mindedness If your doctor is not open to or curious about the effectiveness of alternative modalities, he is not the doctor for you.
The second you hear a doctor say, do it my way and you will be cured, you know his ego has run amok and you should run for the hills. I have found that ego is one of the major culprits in medical mistreatment. Especially if a doctor has a specialty or is researching in a certain area, he may tend to ignore the bigger picture. Curiosity Your doctor should be open and constantly learning and seeking. Yes, they are busy, and yes, they are educated.
But as in any field, there are always new discoveries and options — yes options. Many times they are not in the mainstream yet but are proving to be effective, and many times they are unfortunately not covered by insurance BUT this is your life we are talking about. Bottom line your doctor should have a curiosity about all the new discoveries and modalities. Our environmental stressors, backgrounds, the causes of our particular disorders differ, and only when your doctor takes the time to get to know you is he able to treat you as such. Your MD should see you as a unique individual and diagnose and treat you to meet your specific needs.
We are each an intricate symphony of mind-body-soul that needs to be honored. This is a working relationship which can only work when both people are communicating as equals and with respect. Your doctor should be open to all your questions. He or she should encourage you if you want a second opinion, not be threatened or make you feel ashamed.
If your MD sets himself on a pedestal, run. Slow to Pull Out the Rx Pad Your MD should look for root causes of your issues so that while a medication might be needed, he or she sets you on the road to true wellness by suggesting modalities that are more user friendly to your body. The doctor understands that true wellness is empowering. Additionally if your MD writes a script because you ask and it is easier, well you are hurting yourself. Integrity, humility, conscientiousness, discernment and openness are qualities in your doctor that will end up serving you.
Remember he or he is human and as we know many doctors have made many mistakes. We are ultimately responsible for our own your health. Check out your options and empower yourself. Here is to YOUR health. The Secret to Success. Many times I wondered if there was a reoccurring theme running through their success stories that would clearly illustrate what creates success. They generally told me things like: I then asked many highly successful people who had obtained great wealth or personal success in business, sports, or science. They generally told me that success involved things like: This made me very curious.
So much so that while I was teaching at a state university in the Los Angeles area, I asked hundreds of college students what they thought was the secret to success. These were all undergraduate students in business with little or no real-world business experience.
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What I found amazing was that they also said success involved things like: Everyone I interviewed or wrote about regarding the secret to success — from Buzz Aldrin to Erin Brockovich, from average businesspeople to undergraduate college students — gave me virtually the same answer. I have found that many people are looking for some mysterious and ever-elusive secret to success beyond what they already sense to be important. The truth is, there is no great mystery. What you do hear about is their unwavering adherence to some system or approach they believed in and followed with intensity and determination — an uncommon focus on something that less successful people simply take for granted or pay lip service to.
Successful people focus on the goal and work through or around everything else. I thought there had to be more to it than that, that the road to success was much more complicated and daunting. So I wasted valuable time looking for some secret. In the end, success is not about being different or having secret knowledge. In the end, everybody knows what the goal is and how to achieve it.
Success is about knowing these things and having the will to go after them without giving up, making excuses, or getting sidetracked. Success is about the uncommon application of common knowledge. Ivan Misner is a New York Times bestselling author.
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His books can be can be viewed at www. Misner is also the Sr. Partner for the Referral Institute, an international referral training company www. I am that person. You are that person. You know who I mean. Now, for some reason, it has reached the crisis point. I listened to the manager and her supervisor who now was at the end of his rope as well share how this situation has been building for a few years.
How his behavior has yet again escalated and peers are starting to gripe about feeling uncomfortable and distracted. Then she said the phrase that cuts right to the root of the problem. When we have a pattern or behavior that makes others uncomfortable, it is distracting and unbeknownst to us, is actually holding us back. Because it feels yucky. So we do one of three things: Ignore the behaviors and sometimes the person and hope they get the hint.
Make jokes about it or casually drop hints and hope they pick up on it. Wait until it is to the breaking point and lash out publically with more anger and energy than is warranted. Because we are human. Because we care about people. And because we want to avoid feeling yucky and inflicting yuck on others. But avoiding the yucky feeling actually causes more yucky feelings, drama and generally no real change or resolution. Can you remember a time when you got some really hard but life changing feedback? How did you feel initially? I bet you felt kind of yucky. But how long did that yucky feeling last?
And what did you learn? And what opportunity was created through this new awareness? What is different for you now? Every promotion, every new relationship, every new project and every new team presents us with opportunities to be that person. As leaders, managers, supervisors, parents, partners and friends, we need to become more okay with giving and receiving feedback.
In fact, growth and change are born out of discomfort. When you try to set things up so no one you or the other person feels any discomfort, you are actually enabling the problem to continue and you are holding the person back. Remember a time when you were a child, or you were with a child, preparing to cross the street.
The child, maybe about age four or five, started to step off the curb while a car was coming. It is the same when staff is behaving in ways that are inappropriate. Deal with it immediately and frankly. Be empathetic and vulnerable. Incorporate a story about how you learned a lesson through feedback. Seek understanding through clarity. Ask them to summarize what they heard you say. Emphasize their value to the organizations. And clarify anything that was heard incorrectly.
Grace is in the space. Give them time to reflect and process. That is your desire to get rid of the yuck. Send an email with a synopsis of the feedback, the action steps to change and a reinforcement of the positive. Let them know when you will check back in within a day or two and be sure to do so! Notice when they are trying to make change. Give subtle, frequent, positive feedback. Giving feedback frequently and early is the only way to take the drama, stress and just plain yuck out of it.
You will probably even get to the point where people look forward to your feedback because it means they are seen, heard, valued and moving forward! What if you were supposed to have that experience as part of your soul journey and no matter how hard you may have tried, it was inevitable that it was going to happen…almost like a contract you made with yourself or another person. Think about this for a moment. This is one of my favorite quotes: But there are those few instances that are really stubborn.
The worst one is Regret. You really want to learn how to release this one because it will suck the life out of you and attract only more sorrow, self pity and resentment. In the chapter, I write about the experience of losing my dad and then growing up with an abusive step-father for 9 years, followed by an abusive husband at just Yes, we often go back to the familiar. Although this experience was so terrible that I would never want to live through it again, I was able to find the gift and to forgive my parents for abandoning me…and my abusers. I did the work through a remarkable weekend program, and when I did it was like a huge weight was lifted out of my body.
For a big part of my life, I carried this regret and resentment around and it simply sucked the life out of me. I now have an amazing life. Now that I look back, I can see the hand of God or Source at work…with all kinds of synchronistic events. Remember, what we focus on expands, so here are three tips to keep you in joy: Focus on what you want. Release what is no longer serving you. And find the gift in adversity. Such simple tips…yet they work beautifully! I run up against anger in all aspects of my life.
I see it in my work, in my family, in my community and most dauntingly — in myself. Yes, anger is a tool. We use it to convey that we are disappointed. We use it to convey that we were wronged. We use it to establish, or hold, a boundary. We use it to justify revenge. We use it to release ourselves from the energy of the underlying bad feelings. Anger is like using a power nail gun to hang a small picture, when a tack hammer would have done the job.
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Instead of tapping one small nail that can easily be removed, moved, or patched over, the power nail gun fiercely sets many nails at once. The nails are driven deep into the wall — deeper than needed. They will be hard to remove. They will require a lot of work to repair the damage to the wall. In essence the nail gun is not only ineffective for this purpose, but when inappropriately applied, it is damaging.
When we use anger to convey messages to others, it frequently yields the same outcome as using a power nail gun to set a tiny picture nail. Our message comes out fast and furious. Too many messages come out at once and many land much deeper on the other person than we intended. Sometimes the damage is permanent and at best it will take a lot of time and intention to heal not only the relationship, but also the shame and guilt that appears within ourselves.
And most often, nothing can ever be repaired to anything close to its original condition. Not long after, once the adrenaline rush slows, you begin to wish you had responded differently? Maybe you feel shame, guilt or embarrassment? For most of us, we want to rid ourselves of those feelings so we get back in touch with the anger — ASAP.
We call a friend and rant and rave about how wronged we were. And some of the folks I work with shoot off an email to their union representative or human resource department to file a complaint about the other person. All in an effort to rid our selves of the uncomfortable feelings generated by our own use of the power nail gun. Unfortunately, like the power nail gun example, we are left with too many nails, a big mess and a lot of pain. What I mean is that if you look under your anger, you will always find some kind of combination of other emotions — most commonly fear, sadness, disappointment or grief.
The next time you feel anger rising to the surface, I encourage you to ask yourself these questions: Disappointment -What about this situation is making me feel vulnerable? Out of Control -As a result of this situation, what am I choosing to let go of — i. Grief -What scares me most about this situation — i. I will end up penniless and homeless. I will always be alone? Fear In the beginning you will be tempted to focus on the other person, but the more important work is to explore the questions in the context of yourself.
In other words, you may be disappointed that your staff person missed an important deadline, but are you also disappointed in yourself that you forgot to check in with them on their progress last week? Does their missing the deadline bring up fears that you are ineffective as a leader and will be fired? This is where your truth is revealed. Look for feelings of fear, disappointment, grief or sadness you may have mistaken for righteous anger.
If you realize that you have felt out of control in relationships many, many times — there maybe a pattern you want to explore within you. If you realize you are frequently disappointed that members of your team miss deadlines, you may choose to strengthen your own skills in leadership, empowerment, and holding people accountable. As you explore these questions, you will gain insight into what is driving anger. A few months ago an appointment I had been eagerly waiting for was cancelled at the last minute due to a scheduling mix up.
Speaking with Xenia about her own experiences to creating wealth was akin to finding a huge nugget whilst prospecting. When a guest so honestly shares the challenges that turn up and more importantly how she overcame these challenges, well that is pure gold.
What this should mean to you dear reader is that within each and everyone of us is the potential to becoming successful and creating lasting wealth. So, are you ready to step up? Xenia, to her credit has made it her personal mission to help every person who desires financial freedom by providing the necessary education they did not get at school. Natalie Ledwell Interview You can download the mp3 recording and pdf transcript of this interview by going to http: It was by repeatedly watching her Mind Movie that got Natalie to drop a couple of dress sizes in quick time, and propel her business to one with a multi million dollar turnover, just to name a few of her many goals reached!
In this exclusive interview with Natalie, she dispels the misconceptions about the Law of Attraction and generously shares her personal experiences of how this principle really works. As a motivational speaker, she has shared the stage with luminaries in the personal development field such as Bob Proctor, Joe Vitale and John Assaraf.
As a young 21 year old Nick Cownie came face to face with his own mortality when he and a friend were held up at gun point and robbed after a night out to celebrate his birthday. Diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, he decided that being held hostage by this condition was cramping his life, even if it did not feel that way then.
In this in depth interview, Nick shares his strategies of leveraging his time to the degree that he only needs to work 3 days a week to maintain this amazing lifestyle. Nick has generously offered to teach and guide you through the exact same techniques he used to become the happy, wealthy and fulfilled person he is today. Check it out at http: Nick Cownie is an internationally acclaimed expert in the fields of mindset improvement, neurolinguistic programming, and personal development.
Nick and his brother Andrew co founded the Success Dynamics Institute. In this interview I had the pleasure of asking Liana Allison a Breakthrough Coach explain the different modalities she uses to guide her clients through seemingly difficult obstacles that stand between them and career success, happy relationships and limitless wealth.
In essence we unwittingly repeat actions that do not serve us and consequently cause us to self sabotage our attempts at improving our personal and professional circumstances. She explains how these wealth wounds may be a carry over from karmic patterning. I leave it to you to take what you will from that previous statement; listen to my interview with Liana as she describes two real life examples from coaching her personal clients illustrating her point.
If you feel have you have hit a ceiling in your earning capacity or cannot seem to shed the unwanted pounds, perhaps it is time to entertain alternative coaching methods. Who knows, you may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome. She is experienced in Remedial Massage and Reiki and is a highly gifted Intuitive Counsellor who draws on Spiritual Teaching when helping her clients breakthrough their blockages. Her acumen in business saw her holiday houseboat business in the South Australian Riverland area be the first in the world to receive Eco-tourism Accreditation.
Kiri Waiata Green is not your conventional business and life coach. Professional qualifications aside this remarkable lady has a God given and unique gift to help her clients find their voice literally. So, in corporate speak you are requesting a review of your remuneration package such that it is commensurate with your current roles and responsibilities. Listen to my interview with Kiri as she explains the physics of using sound and vibrations generated at the molecular level to remove limiting self beliefs and emotional blockages to wealth creation. If I said to you that a child can grow up in poverty with an abusive stepfather and then at 18 marry a violent man, walk away from that marriage virtually penniless, hit rock bottom physically, mentally and emotionally before coming back as a self made millionaire at 47 years of age, you could be forgiven for thinking this was a Cinderella story of feel good fiction.
Let me introduce you to Katana Abbott, the lady whose life I just described. However, this is not the point of the exercise because I invite you to listen to my interview with a woman who took action on a number of fronts to change her life. Katana Abbott Interview You can download the mp3 recording and pdf transcript of this interview by going to http: The most obvious was to qualify as a certified financial planner and grow a multi million dollar business.
Know as the Midlife Millionaire Coach, Katana is focused on helping women entrepreneurs, ages , create financial freedom whilst following their passion. Her generosity knows no bounds so if you go to http: If you go to http: Ladies and gentleman, you are witnessing the actions of a woman who not only knows that her life has a higher purpose; she lives it. If you are like me, you too will wonder about what sets these seemingly ordinary people apart from the rest in terms of their capacity to recognize and identify a need, develop a service or a widget that addresses that need and then go on realize their goal of turning their ideas into millions of dollars.
I asked Robert Jordan who has compiled interviews with 45 billionaire entrepreneurs and published his book telling us how they did it. Below are six indispensable tips that helped them succeed. As is quintessential a characteristic of all serial entrepreneurs, he then sold his highly profitable Online Access and proceeded to start up a couple more companies, RedFlash , a project implementation team, and interimCEOinterimCFO , a worldwide network of interim, contract, and project executives.
Their collective wisdom has been distilled into his latest book, How they did it: Billion Dollar Insights from the Heart of America. He freely admits this book was a labor of love, driven by an insatiable curiosity to know the minds and passions of this select group of diverse individuals.
All aspiring entrepreneurs who believe they are billionaires in the making will do well to heed the advice of the 45 who have gone before them. Here are just six tips to steer you to success:. Do not be afraid to fail; if and when you do, make sure you fail fast. Do not be precious about your idea, be willing to tweak it 3.