Enjoyed it all over again. Often I am so guilty of just getting swamped with research about the hubs that I do publish that I just get caught in the chaos. Looking into his eyes getting harder every day. But also I cant stop myself from doing it. I dont respect or love myself at all anymore.
Neshama - So sorry to hear that. I hope you did the right thing for yourself and are healing. The first one that popped into my head was Hank Williams classic "Your Cheat'n Heart", but that's so old school. I came up with a better one - "Human" by The Human League. Jannr - I hope that your relationship can properly heal and he does not repeat his behavior. My best to you, either way. Great Hub, BUT being a lady from another world, get a divorce. You can be single again and have as many partners as necessary.
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Reynold - Country road show! Lying Eyes struck a chord as I used that song and other Eagle songs in my country roads show a looooong time ago. Impressive to do all this work for this HUB. I can hope you have more memories for me in upcoming HUBS. Audrey - One of my favorites too! A guaranteed ear worm. Have a great weekend and thank you for reading! Agusfanani - It sure is appropriate for the topic, isn't it?
Thank you for stopping by. Have a wonderful weekend. I'm thinking of all of my hub friends around the world given recent worldwide events and wishing you safety and peace. Me and Mrs Jones What a fun hub this is. Thanks for sharing I'll be singing all day! I find it an admirably exhaustive list of songs about cheating and the your idea to put "Me and Mrs. Jones" by Billy Paul no. Thankfully, they have the talent to express their grief this way so that we can all commiserate with them. I appreciate your reading and commenting.
Wow very interesting topic, music is huge at conveying the musicians feelings, I guess a lot of great musicians have issues lol. Rota - Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment. Love how you edited the pics and made them so prominent in the Hub.
Rawspirit - Thanks for stopping by. I love that people vote and tell it like it is. This is really an impressive compilation of song list and analysis. Interesting theme as well. I like the survey and the inclusion of information like the 7 reasons to stay faithful. The stress, cost, and unwanted pregnancy with someone we don't even love, these all add up to be very strong reasons. Catherine - Thanks for reading, Thankfully iv been happily married for 20 years but if he did cheat he'd have one mess on his hands.
You always assemble such wonderful playlists. I don't listen to country music so there are not too many that I recognize here. Also I kind of lost touch with pop music around the 90's. Lucky for me, cheating has never been a big issue in my life, but if it was I would listen to these songs until my grief was played out.
You have covered everything and it is so well researched. I have always loved Me and Mrs. StellaSee - Thank you for the kind words of praise and encouragement. I'm glad you found something you enjoyed so much! Subhail and my dog - I was surprised myself how many songs there are about this topic. Thanks for visiting and have a great weekend! Growing up on the hair metal rock of the 80s, every other song, especially coming from blues based melodious rock, felt like it was about cheating, lying, and dysfunctional love.
Patricia - I'm sorry that happened to you. Thanks for stopping by, and have a great weekend. But when it was done, it was and as it happened it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. You definitely have a collection of songs that can help us work through relationship issues.
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Music is good for the soul If I was to catch my wife cheating I would cash out my bank account and just leave let her worry about the bills and headache and I would just disappear. Absolutely love these playlists that you do! That "lies" graffiti is amazing. Sharing this on twitter!
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Don't let him ruin your life. Take all his money and run. I hope people make good choices for themselves. Have a great weekend. What an interesting hub, Flourishing, although I find it quite disturbing to read about all these songs in one place that kind of glamorize adultery and infidelity. When I worked in an outreach agency for women and children who had experienced relationship abuse I recall putting together for presentation to a client group, a list of pop songs pre-Youtube that romanticized abusive behaviours like stalking, womanizing, and "murders of passion".
So many songs about infidelity. Love the one by Bruno Mars. In his case, it would be better to be clueless, hahahaha. Garage-Info - A momentary choice on one person's part can certainly destroy trust and live with the other person for many years. Just remember that it was about him, not you. Thanks for stopping by. You know I've been cheated before and I felt so bad about it. I can relate to some of their songs. But I haven't cheated on someone yet, so I hope that wouldn't happen.
If my wife finds out, she'll kill me. There are so many. Once you start thinking about it, you wonder how many people have built solid music careers off cheating lyrics and how cheating has ruined other solid careers e. Thanks for reading and commenting! Wow, where would we be without infidelity, or where would the music scene be? I think Mary should run fast and not look back Jackie - Thanks for visiting. That is one of my very favorites too! Anna - Thanks for stopping by and for commenting. It is a slow recovery from this pneumonia.
I hope you are enjoying your Sunday! Well done on a very well crafted hub. It was really entertaining and interesting to read, and the volume of research you must have undertaken shows clearly in the high quality your writing shows. We may as well keep on singing about it. A superbly written, well represented hub listing songs about the oldest sin in all of the History of man. Since the very beginning of time till the end This one activity causes more chaos and commotion than a violent tsunami.
Anger, sadness, murder, suicide, divorce, broken families, financial ruin, psychological damage, distrust, ruined careers, shame, embarrassment, STD's, abortion, accidental pregnancies, I could on for at least an hour, but why bother? All your readers can make their own long lists! Yet, humans not only continue to frolic, but infidelity steadily increases and women are catching up with men in this game of pain at an incredible rate of speed.
If a few thousands of years and several oceans of tears have failed to educate Homo Sapiens and bring us to the realization that "infidelity" is just as much a part of life as breathing Kenneth - You're not being callous at all. I'm just slow to respond!
I don't know who catches pneumonia in the middle of summer but I managed. I appreciated that you cared enough to follow up. I am so sorry. I offer you my deepest apologies for bursting into this hub and writing such callus words. I did not know you were sick and with pneumonia. That is so insensitive of me. Kenneth - Thank you so much for you comment and enthusiastic support. I am a bit slow in responding today, as I have been sick with pneumonia.
I appreciate your reading. I've been working on a country version, although unfortunately given your tastes it will have some Kenny Rogers. But there will be plenty of others to balance him out! I've been singing along with most of these songs for years and I was too occupied enjoying the tunes to think about the meaning behind the words.
This hub was an eye opener for me. By the way, country music has a few excellent cheating songs too Carrie Underwood's "Before He Cheats" is one of my favorite. And I agree with every choice you published. Nell Rose - As women continue to gain in status, we should anticipate more infidelity from them, unfortunately.
Thanks for stopping by and for sharing. Glad you enjoyed it! Savvy - I think people underreport cheating because of the shame and secrecy associated with it. You're right that great lovers don't grow on trees. I agree with ALL of your choices. Cool country music selections. I love listening to this stuff very early in the morning, and of course the last thing before going to bed.
Thanks for making my day full of fun! I was singing along and agreeing with all the statements until I got to the women who cheat, I always say its men who cheat more, but women cheat less but then again we are better liars so It's a wonder people still believe in romance and fidelity.
I loved the "Lost Dog" poster. I can't imagine going to that trouble, but it is funny as all get out. Mostly, I paid attention to the chorus, so that I could sing along. Voting up and everything, of course. You really know how to put a piece together. OK, I shouldn't say so, but I had a boyfriend who I thought might have wandering eyes. I confronted him, he denied it and I continued to see him, but only because I didn't have proof and he was a great lover.
Did I just say that? Hey, good lovers don't grow on trees. Jo - I will add a couple of those suggestions to my upcoming country edition. There are so many good ones! Thanks for suggesting them! I absolutely love this clever, funny and very entertaining article.
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How about 'Take another piece of my heart' Janis Joplin and 'Tell mama' still depressing. I guess if love is the most potent emotion in the universe, the realization that you've invested it all in a cheat is the pits. Faith's comment also gave me a chuckle, I love Meat Loaf, and I would do anything for love, but I won't do that. Nicely done as always. Thanks for reading and commenting. I watched Rihanna perform "Unfaithful" live So, maybe she's been there. See 46 more comments. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages and Hubbers authors may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.
To provide a better website experience, spinditty. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so. For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: Will It Tell on You? Stolen Moments and Broken Trust Most of us have been touched by a cheating relationship somehow —whether we've been: You know who you are. So Which One Are You? We Won't Tell In your dating and marital history as an adult which role have you played most often?
The One Who Strayed Victim: You love the idea of me. You used to live round the corner cigarettes and alcohol. We used to speak every morning I was sleeping on the floor. I still get the mail for you I leave it at the door. Every letter seems a warning, pay your rego by the fourth. Monday morning laundry or coffee on the garden wall. Heading down the Highway Hume somewhere at the end of June. Taxidermied kangaroos are littered on the shoulders. A possum Jackson Pollock is painted on the tar. We drive to a house in Preston, we see police arresting a man with his hand in a bag.
This place seems depressing. Wakes up at a quarter past nine, fare evades his way down the 96 tram line. Feeling sick at the sight of his computer he dodges his way through the Swanston commuters. Rips off his tie, hands it to a homeless man, sleeping in the corner of a Metro bus stand. He waits for an elevator, 1 to 9, a lady walks in and waits by his side. Her heels are high and her bag is snakeskin. Hair pulled so tight you can see her skeleton. Vickers perfume on her breath, a tortoise-shell necklace between her breasts.
Wait until the letter's red until my bills get paid. Aw tell me, tell me, tell me, when's it gonna change? Every morning I feel more useless than before. Trying hard to see the point in anything at all. Aw I've been trying, I've been trying really hard. Nothing lasts for never so be still my bleeding heart. Aw I've been dreaming, dreaming of a brand new start. You have a great abundance of axes there to grind.
Remember some people have real problems next time you whine. Oh hang the washing, hang the washing on the line. Yeah I've been trying, I've been trying really hard. Aw tell me, tell me, tell me when's it gonna change. I masturbated to the songs you wrote. Resuscitated all of my hopes. Much appreciated are your songs.
It just helps me get to sleep. I under-estimated your intelligence. A little bit of weed mixed with some sentiment. I wanna go out but I wanna stay home. Why you so eager to please? I wear my heart on my sleeve. I like you despise you admire you what are we gonna do when everything all falls through? Dirty clothes, I suppose, we all outgrow ourselves. All different sizes and all shades of green, slashing it down just seems kinda mean.
I make mistakes until I get it right. Oh the calamity I wanna go to sleep for an eternity…who am I to deny myself a pawn? An eye for an eye for an eye for an eye, I dreamed I stabbed you with a coat hanger wire. I lay awake at three, staring at the ceiling. Come round to mine, we can swap clothes and drink wine all night. Leave your shoes at the door, along with your troubles. Thank you for cooking for me, I had a really nice evening, just you and me. You were doing free-style.
Then you switched it around to a little bit of backstroke. I had goggles on. They were getting foggy. It's about a man who loves a woman, but she listens to other people's opinions. The protagonist thinks about the future they could've had, and he blames his sweetheart for not being strong enough to stand up to the naysayers. He feels that his utter devotion has left him playing the role of the fool:. When you need the hand of another man One you really can surrender with — I will wait for you Like I always do There's something there That can't compare with any other.
The lonely narrator in this song is eager for a soft voice and tender arms to hold him tight. Wanting someone to love him back, he recalls the sage words of his mother just when he's about to give up his search. His mother advised that you can't hurry love, that you must wait for it. And that wait is ever so worth the struggle. This achingly romantic song has been recorded by over artists in many languages, but this version stands as the definitive version. The narrator has been separated from his lover for far too long and pines to rejoin her.
The song was used as the theme in the movie Ghost. However, it was originally written for another movie decades earlier. The earlier movie was about a man who was being released from prison and looking to reunite with his love interest. In this endearing country song, a younger man meets and older one and realizes they have one thing in common: The older man looks back on his life and recounts all of the times that he has waited on the woman he loves, from their first date when she was half an hour late, to their wedding that took a year to plan, and nearly every day thereafter.
He imagines that he'll end up waiting for her in death as well. However, he doesn't mind because that's what lovers do: The lovesick man in this ballad is oceans apart from his girlfriend. He is left waiting it out, nearly going crazy for her to return. Still in love with the woman who has broken his heart and left him, the guy at the center of this pop song returns to the street corner where he first met his ex-girlfriend.
With his sleeping bag, a cardboard sign and a photo of her in hand, he waits, hoping she will return to the spot where their love affair began. He's the man who can't be moved. This remake of Cyndi Lauper's classic rock song is about the mutual support that exists between two people who care deeply about one another:. If you fall, I will catch you; I'll be waiting I'll always be waiting Time after time This heartwarming country song from features a couple separated by miles but not love.
The husband is trying desperately to return to his ailing wife, but he is detained by a Montana snowstorm. As she promises to wait for him, the wife fondly recalls other moments that she waited for his return: This guy has some sense of timing! Sadly, our hero doesn't arrive in time, and his waiting wife dies.
Let's hope she wasn't alone. She leaves behind a note promising to wait for him on the other side. The narrator leaves his sweetheart back in his native Tennessee as he bounces from Boston to Denver to Los Angeles in search of career success. While he finds success, his one true love waits for him back home. He pleads for her to join him, but she insists that she won't leave; instead, if he loved her, he'd return to her.
The narrator in this pop song feels remorse for how she treated her lover, but she has learned from the experience. Now she is waiting for when he is ready to love her again. She promises to treat him differently and better this time. Having been through a cycle of heartache, hoping and deep aching for the return of his beloved, the narrator in this pop song awaits the return of his lover.
Realizing that their love is one-of-a-kind, he waits for her to come back around. If you feel like you've waited your whole life—eternity even—for your one special sweetheart, consider yourself most fortunate to have found the one who is your perfect match. It describes a love so intense that the narrator feels he has loved and waited for his better half for 1, years.
Better yet, he claims he will love her for 1, more. Have you ever stood by supportively while you pined away for a friend whose heart was breaking over someone else? That's what the narrator in this rock song is doing. The girl he loves is trying to recover from heartbreak. Our patient narrator is so certain that his friend is the one for him that he will wait indefinitely for her to realize that the love she deserves has been there all along. Now that is confidence. In this country song, the narrator is a sad and lonely wife who waits at home for her husband.
Even though they are far apart, she cries herself to sleep missing him and waits faithfully for his return. The sailor who narrates this country song sets sail tomorrow. He'll be leaving his lover until Springtime and needs to know if she will wait for his return:. Oh, the longer the waiting, the sweeter the kiss It's better my darling, I promise you this: The next time I hold you, I'm not letting go Will you wait for me darling?
I need to know. It'll all work out. While the narrator in this hard rock song sits and waits for his girlfriend, he tries to convince himself and her that the end will all be worth the wait. This folk rock song may be almost 50 years old, but it reflects what's going on today with increasing regularity. People travel great distances from their homes on business, for school, and to serve their country in the military.
Although there is social media and communication methods, it's lonely waiting for someone you love to return. Nothing truly replaces having them right there with you:. So far away Doesn't anybody stay in one place anymore? It would be so fine to see your face at my door Doesn't help to know you're just time away. Who cares that the guy she wants is someone else's boyfriend?
That's a small detail. When you're certain you belong together, you gotta wait it out while you convince him that you're the one. That's the narrator's strategy in this Taylor Swift hit. The guy in this rock song has been waiting on the woman he loves for such a long time now that he feels foolish and cruelly treated. He claims that she builds him up just to knock him down, yet still he waits. No one said waiting on love was easy.
Let's first be clear about what you're asking. You want to know whether you should put your love life on hold for someone indefinitely without knowing how they feel about you. Phrasing it that way, doesn't it seem more unreasonable for you to do that? People wait for lovers for a variety of reasons. Some reasons are better than others. Examples include one partner moving away due to a job, military deployment, schooling, incarceration, etc. Alternatively, one partner may be married or involved with someone else.
The couple stands a better chance if both partners are firmly committed to a plan for getting together. However, you haven't expressed your desire to reunite. Before waiting, you might want to do that at least and determine how long you will delay your happiness on someone else. You also need to decide whether waiting constitutes continuing to date around or being completely out of the dating game.
There are many people out there who could potentially fulfill your happiness. I don't understand why you'd want to go "all in" by putting your life on hold for someone who doesn't know you're waiting. As special as this person is to you, you cannot afford to put your entire life on hold waiting for her to change her mind. You owe it to yourself to get out there and work on making yourself a happy person interested in the world around you rather than just being interested in capturing her attention.
There are many possible matches for each of us in this world, not one soulmate. Open yourself up to the possibilities. There may be someone out there even better for you than her — someone, who will love you back! No more waiting around, ok? You gave it a good shot already. That depends on a lot of factors, but the most important one is YOU.
I hope you feel good enough about yourself to believe that you're worth loving. Here are a few things to consider in determining how long to wait on someone when there are 7. Evaluate your relationship understanding and level of commitment. Is this a marriage or long-term, exclusive relationship? On the other extreme of the continuum, have you never even shared your feelings with them and thus you don't know whether the feelings are one-sided or mutual?
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It's very hard to maintain a relationship over a long period of time without a deep spoken commitment. The more mutual it is, the longer I'd personally be willing be invest. If there's any component of secrecy to the relationship such as in a clandestine extramarital affair, beware. You'll probably be waiting forever for them to leave their spouse.
What do you expect from each other from a behavioral standpoint? What constitutes a betrayal? For example, you might consider "waiting" to include loving someone from afar while continuing to casually date or fall in love with other partners over the years. Your beloved might consider "waiting" to be exclusive emotional and sexual fidelity, even if you haven't communicated for a long period.
Know what you each expect. If there's an imbalance in expectations e. Is this a voluntary separation in which they had the option to stay with you or take you with them, but instead chose not to? Or was the situation forced, compulsory, not their choice? A variety of examples include: Is there any timeline or plan for getting the two of you together? How concrete is it? Has either of you articulated "deal breakers" for the relationship?
Has either of you violated these? The more concrete a plan and timeline, the more confident I'd feel about waiting. Failure to meet intermediate milestones would signal red flags. Opportunity costs refer to what you give up when you choose another option. By waiting for this person, what are you potentially giving up? Are you okay with that?
Seriously give this one some thought. As much as you have a connection with this one person, sometimes the timing doesn't work. Don't pine away for someone during the best years of your life.
If it was meant to be, they'd prioritize you as much as you have prioritized them. Should I continue waiting for the person who abandoned me, came back and lied to my face and left again after promising to never do so? Curiously, the one thing you did not say is that you LOVE this person and that is good because the way they're treating you is neither loving nor respectful. You need to love and respect yourself, too, and not allow others to treat you so dismissively and manipulatively.
People teach others how to treat them, so your challenge is to do a better job teaching others to respect you.