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There were days I hated going into the office. So after successfully dealing with assholes I used tip number two below , and interviewing Robert Sutton , I want to share three practical tips with you that can prevent a lot of stress. Is someone having a bad day? All those things play a role in our mood. Letting a bad episode slide is okay. Just by understanding basic human psychology will make you a relaxed human being.

Too often, we take things too personal and are quick to judge. If you have a conflict at work with a coworker, you could try to resolve that situation. Remember, we can only change so much.


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If you work in an environment where office politics and backstabbing is the norm, it is unlikely you can change the culture unless you are a senior manager or the CEO. But stay practical, believe in yourself, and create a plan. Knowing when to quit is not that complicated. Look at your situation and make a decision.

So I got out.

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Assholes at work are often very good at office politics. So no matter what you do, never try to beat an asshole at their own game. They will always win. Doing battle with assholes is risky business.

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If you decide to fight back, think about your strategy. When it comes to conflicts, I prefer to let the other person know how you feel about a situation.

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As Sutton told me in our interview, having a good support system at work makes all the difference. No matter how perfect you are, fighting back remains a difficult thing. Fighting back remains a tough thing but the rewards are also great. When you fight back, you say no to assholes, and that makes you feel in control of life. I believe that, under no circumstance, one should feel like a powerless victim in life. And, I would argue, ethical assholes are national treasures.

Some people are just naturally very disagreeable. But for those who are agreeable, learning to be an asshole is a skill that must be practiced. The same way an introvert must practice using extraverted skills when necessary, the agreeable person must learn to be disagreeable when necessary, lest they get walked over. What about to save your career? What about to promote a good cause you care about? Unethical assholes are assholes because they care about themselves more than others.

They are narcissistic and see the world only in terms of what benefits themselves. They are unethical because their cause is bad. Their sympathy for others is a tool that holds them back. I just got off the phone with a friend last night. I chewed him out for doing something pretty stupid that involved me.

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I feel awful that he feels awful. So I can bear it. But for me to be able to make him feel awful, I first need to be capable of feeling awful myself. Create a new rule for yourself: In fact, chances are, in the long run, other people will be glad you said it. And it will come more naturally. My god, that really needed to be said. This will begin to happen all the time. Christ on a cupcake. Maybe get off your asses every once in a while, eh? Now, get the fuck out of here. I have a book to write. We all think we know ourselves well, but psychological studies show otherwise. In fact, most of us are somewhat deluded about ourselves.

I put together a page ebook explaining how we can come to know ourselves better, just fill out your email in the form. You can opt out at any time. See my privacy policy. Henry Allport—dude really loved his dictionaries. Often, a lot more money. Asshole Nice Person Asshole Optimal Deal — but everyone hates each other Asshole gets more than she deserves — but everyone still gets along Nice Person Asshole gets more than he deserves — but everyone still gets along Sub-optimal deal — but everyone likes each other So, yes, assholes run the world.

The more important something is, the higher the stakes. The higher the stakes, the more emotionally involved people are going to be with the outcome. Learn to be an asshole The best way to do business…apparently. All assholes are unethical.

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Handbook for the 16 personality factor questionnaire. Institute for Personality and Ability Testing. But psychologists generally agree that The Big Five captures the human experience well. But in the short- to medium-term, personality traits are generally very stable. Development of personality in early and middle adulthood: Set like plaster or persistent change?

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