Also like his father, Steven became "a taker," meaning that he rarely gave parts of himself in order to support others, especially Julie. Julie's proclivities complemented those of Steven, and not necessarily in a productive way. Patterns in relationships often work out this way, where one person's triggers are validated by another person's. As a child, Julie learned to ignore her feelings and take care of others' feelings.
Like her mother, she learned to give herself up and be a caretaker. Both Steven and Julie were in the pattern of abandoning themselves in different ways; Steven never challenged his tendency to take, take and take, and Julie never invited herself to stop self-sacrificing. As I explained generally before, takers and caretakers are often attracted to each other.
It's like lock and key: For that reason, takers generally don't gravitate toward one another, and caretakers may like each other as friends, but rarely feel sexual tension or passion in their relationship. Back to Steven and Julie. Their sexual passion continued until Steven started to become more demanding of Julie — not just sexually but emotionally as well. He would get jealous when she spent time with her friends, and he would get angry and pout if she didn't feel like making love. Julie tried her best to take care of Steven without blinking an eye, making sure to see her friends less and even agreeing to have sex when she didn't feel like it.
Yet it seemed like no matter how much she complied with his demands, it was never enough. As this dynamic intensified, Julie realized that she began to experience Steven as a needy little boy when he would want to have sex, rather than a powerful man.
One of the things that had originally attracted her to Steven was that he seemed to be a man who felt whole inside. But now she experienced him as empty, insecure, and dependent on her validation to fill him up. After awhile, Julie just couldn't give herself up anymore. All the passion had gone out of their relationship.
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That's when they consulted with me. I helped them each see how each of them was abandoning themselves by not taking responsibility for their own feelings of worth. You never see the ending coming even if you think you do. I highly recommend everything Ms. Jun 05, Leanne Herrera rated it it was amazing.
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This has sex in it but is not in the realm of the other two books. This reads exactly like what it is a murder mystery with a bit of spice.
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Not your Momma's apple pie spice either. Leanna is a very descriptive writer and pulls the audience into the scene. We can taste it, touch it, feel it and live in the moments with her characters. I was very sad during some scenes and heated with lust with others.
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The ending was perfect in my opinion so I am giving this book a 5 out of 5 with a heat rating of This has sex in it but is not in the realm of the other two books. The ending was perfect in my opinion so I am giving this book a 5 out of 5 with a heat rating of 7.
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Nov 12, Tracy Reads rated it really liked it. I received this book in exchange for an honest review this is not the type of book I normally would read, the description alone probably would have made me not choose it I prefer romance without death: Apr 25, Barbara Rowe rated it it was amazing. The book was hot and sexy, with a great sence of oneself. Sharalynn rated it it was ok Apr 23, Lucee Lovett rated it really liked it Apr 21, Maria rated it it was amazing Aug 10, BooK-O-Holic rated it did not like it Mar 31, Steph rated it liked it Apr 02, Eternal Press rated it it was amazing Feb 07, Muppet rated it did not like it Mar 13, Valerie marked it as to-read Nov 11, George Stuck marked it as to-read Apr 25, Masum Shukhan marked it as to-read Apr 26, Mary Beth marked it as to-read May 04, Matthew marked it as to-read May 04, Em Epe marked it as to-read May 20, Policar marked it as to-read Oct 13, Bethany Lovell marked it as to-read Nov 21, Abbey marked it as to-read Nov 29, Suzanne added it Feb 18, Kiss of a sniper marked it as to-read Sep 30, I grew up on the Central Coast of California where the beaches were pristine and the sunsets were spectacular.
I attended the school of hard knocks as traditional schools had too many rules and regulations for me. I raised four children that turned out to be happy, healthy, productive members of society.
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Each of my children grew up to possess my independent spirit and headstrong ways but are all a I grew up on the Central Coast of California where the beaches were pristine and the sunsets were spectacular. Each of my children grew up to possess my independent spirit and headstrong ways but are all awesome people. For all of my love, time and devotion, most of my children have repaid me with the ultimate gift. They are my favorite past time and at present, I have four of them. I am sure that the future holds more of them for me. I believe that a smile is the best accessory one can wear, that random acts of kindness can change the world and do them every chance I get.
I also try to learn something new every day. Then make sure you acknowledge and validate the other person before you make your point acknowledgement does not mean agreement. Then define the problem. Ask what you can do to make it better and then try to do those things that you talk about. Compassion, understanding, respect and empathy create a space for sexual intimacy to happen. Kindness is always foreplay.
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Remember when you were first dating and you wanted to have sex? What did you do then? You dressed up, went out to a nice dinner, said sweet things, were funny and you hung on every word. Why do we forget this? The loss of physical attraction is based on not being our best selves at home. The challenge is to be the kind of person that someone would want to have sex with.
Relationships require that we become better people to be in them. When sexual attraction diminishes or goes away entirely it can be the result of health issues, drugs and alcohol, personnel issues or the loss of respect. The loss of respect is the chief cause of the loss of sexual desire. If your partner has lost respect for you, what can you do about it?
Make sure you have taken responsibility for whatever you may have done to cause it.
Do whatever you need to do to make it better and let your partner know what your plan is. Do all the things that would make your mate feel you are tuned into them. Make sure you acknowledge what they are feeling. One of the most difficult aspects of relationship intimacy is the fear of being vulnerable.